Right when I typed that it came to mind that I might be bad mouthing the dead, sorry, may he RIP.
That family you talk about is very close knit. You say they share the same surname meaning they are all related?
No, GIVEN name. Our first names are the same, for four of us.
Back then at a family get-together, if someone said my name, four of us would say, “What?”
Most of my family has passed. I have just one sister left, and she is 80.