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Male Couples Face Pressure To Fill Cradles
New York Times ^ | August 9, 2012 | RACHEL L. SWARNS

Posted on 08/09/2012 6:58:41 PM PDT by reaganaut1

WASHINGTON — When the jubilant couple were wed in June, they exchanged personalized vows and titanium rings, cheered the heartfelt toasts and danced themselves breathless. Then, as the evening was winding down, unexpected questions started popping up.

One after another, their guests began asking: Are you going to have kids? When are you going to have kids?

Tom Lotito and Matt Hay, both 26, could not help but feel moved. They never imagined as teenagers that they would ever get married, much less that friends and family members would pester them about having children.

“It’s another way that I feel like what we have is valid in the eyes of other people,” said Mr. Hay, who married Mr. Lotito in June before 133 guests.

As lawmakers and courts expand the legal definition of the American family, same-sex couples are beginning to feel the same what-about-children pressure that heterosexual twosomes have long felt.

For some couples, it is another welcome sign of their increasing inclusion in the American mainstream. But for others, who hear the persistent questions at the office, dinner parties and family get-togethers, the matter can be far more complicated.

Many gay men had resigned themselves to the idea that they would never be accepted by society as loving parents and assumed they would never have children. They grieved that loss and moved on, even as other gay men and lesbians fully embraced childless lives. So the questions can unearth bittersweet feelings and cause deep divisions within a couple over whether to have children at all, now that parenting among same-sex couples is becoming more common.

The process can be also daunting logistically and financially, as would-be parents wrestle with whether to adopt or use a surrogate.

(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: antifamily; barf; homosexualadoption; homosexualagenda; recruitingchildren; rkselection; unnatural
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The process is usually not so "daunting" for a man and woman. Normal sex results in the creation of life. Sodomy results in AIDS and other diseases. Not long ago these observations were common sense.
1 posted on 08/09/2012 6:58:46 PM PDT by reaganaut1
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To: reaganaut1

No, they are not going to have kids. What kind of an idiot would ask two men that question?


2 posted on 08/09/2012 7:00:11 PM PDT by calex59
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To: reaganaut1

The world is upside down.


3 posted on 08/09/2012 7:01:53 PM PDT by ilovesarah2012
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To: calex59

Why not ask if they`re going to have kittens?


4 posted on 08/09/2012 7:02:46 PM PDT by nomad
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One after another, their guests began asking: Are you going to have kids?

Wow, I knew education was in decline in America, but I had no clue it was THIS bad...

5 posted on 08/09/2012 7:02:57 PM PDT by Random_User_250 ("Democracy is indispensable to socialism." -- Vladimir Lenin)
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To: reaganaut1

“One after another, their guests began asking: Are you going to have kids? When are you going to have kids? “

...so, they invited a bunch of pedophiles to their “wedding”...

Why am I not surprised?


6 posted on 08/09/2012 7:03:36 PM PDT by ne1410s ("We will not tolerate your intolerance!!!" ...huh?)
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7 posted on 08/09/2012 7:04:27 PM PDT by narses
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To: ne1410s

Beat me to it. Sounds like a lot of perverts trying to be first in line to baby-sit.


8 posted on 08/09/2012 7:05:11 PM PDT by ClearCase_guy (Roger Taney? Not a bad Chief Justice. John Roberts? A really awful Chief Justice.)
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To: reaganaut1
Not long ago, the idea that there is something wrong with "bug chasing" and "gift giving" were also common sense. How did we get to this point?

And why?

9 posted on 08/09/2012 7:06:05 PM PDT by TwelveOfTwenty (Ho, ho, hey, hey, I'm BUYcotting Chick-Fil-A)
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When are you going to have kids?

When you come to your senses and marry a young lady.

10 posted on 08/09/2012 7:06:31 PM PDT by Colonel Kangaroo
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To: reaganaut1

Where’s the barf alert?


11 posted on 08/09/2012 7:07:11 PM PDT by Albion Wilde (Liberty means responsibility. That is why most men dread it. -- George Bernard Shaw)
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To: reaganaut1

Heather has two screwed up Mommies.


12 posted on 08/09/2012 7:07:38 PM PDT by Huskrrrr
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To: reaganaut1
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13 posted on 08/09/2012 7:08:27 PM PDT by barmag25
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To: reaganaut1

The probability of two men having kids: zero.

The probability of two men having a real wedding: zero.

The probability of these men having flings with others: over 95%.

Why is anyone celebrating this ceremony?


14 posted on 08/09/2012 7:09:19 PM PDT by Pollster1 (Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. - Ronald Reagan)
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To: calex59

Of course not.

But hey, the libtards keep saying 2 faggots are “normal”. If they’re normal, how come they can’t have kids? This is like squeezing orange juice from a boulder.


15 posted on 08/09/2012 7:09:36 PM PDT by max americana (Make the world a better place by punching a liberal in the face)
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To: reaganaut1

The question of marriage was settled many thousands of years ago and it hasn’t changed. It is one man and one woman making a lifetime commitment.


16 posted on 08/09/2012 7:10:46 PM PDT by jimbobfoster
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To: Pollster1

What kind of FREAK asks when two queers will “pro-create?”

The same kind that celebrates their “marriage”, I suppose.


17 posted on 08/09/2012 7:11:05 PM PDT by workerbee (June 28, 2012 -- 9/11 From Within)
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To: reaganaut1

Two men pressured into filling a cradle? Disastrous. Awful. This is the height of absurdity.


18 posted on 08/09/2012 7:11:30 PM PDT by scottjewell
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To: reaganaut1

Where is the projectile vomit warning on this tread?


19 posted on 08/09/2012 7:12:14 PM PDT by JaguarXKE (If my Fluffy had a puppy, it would look like the puppy Obama ate!)
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To: Random_User_250

yes, it’s that bad, because these “friends” are imbeciles for even asking an idiotic question like that.

If fags can have kids, then that’s the time I sh*t dollar bills out of my ass.


20 posted on 08/09/2012 7:12:59 PM PDT by max americana (Make the world a better place by punching a liberal in the face)
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