If I had it to do over, I think I’d offer my kids a deal. If they didn’t go to college, I’d give them a lump sum eqal to 10% of whatever tuition I’d be saving. And from there they’d be on their own.
My deal was we aren’t going to pay for your college. Get good grades in high school, get scholarships, work part time, etc and we will help you out by letting you live in our house providing you follow our rules. So far, so good.