NJ School Teachers attend Planned Parenthood Conf., learn about using "butt plugs" & Sex Toys

Planned Parenthood of Greater Northern New Jersey’s Center for Family Life Education held its sex education conference on November 18th and 19th, 2010 at the Imperia Conference Center in Somerset, NJ. Roughly half the attendees were NJ educators whose $250 conference fee, daily salaries and substitute salaries were paid for by their school districts. At first glance it would appear that this conference was intended to enhance the knowledge base of health educators and as the program guide stated, “keep our communities safe and healthy.” In reality these two days did not fit the criteria of a health conference. The overall perspective minimized the emotional, physical, financial and societal consequences of teen sex while focusing more on teaching the nuances and pleasure of sex. The following are examples of some of the disturbing material covered during the conference:

• Although contraception workshops and other topics typically expected for classroom educators were available, additional workshops for middle school and high school educators were disturbingly inappropriate. The program titles included: Don’t Forget About the Good Stuff! Incorporating Positive Messages about Sexual Pleasure into Sexuality Education – Helping Adolescents Define, Create & Maintain Sexually Healthy Relationships – What’s the T? Becoming a Trans-Inclusive Sexuality Educator and Healthy Endings; A Workshop on Anal Health & Sexual Safety.

• The Healthy Endings workshop featured both “butt plugs” (a sex toy with a flared base designed for anal penetration, primarily used to stretch and relax the anus in preparation for larger items), a life-size anal puppet, that included 10 inches of a clear rectal cavity and finger cots used for “anal play”. Detailed instruction was given on the pleasure of anal sex, the importance of lubrication with insertion and withdrawal and how to “safely and pleasurably engage in receptive anal play with larger-size toys.”

• The opening keynote speaker, Dr. Paul Joannades, wrote in a blog about his speech, The Conversation We Are NOT Having With Our Teens and Pre-Teens, that educators should let students know it’s important to talk to partners about what feels good and what doesn’t, what’s a turn on and what isn’t. He also encouraged educators on disquieting topics for and about adolescents, such as advising students that lots of couples enjoy having sex during periods and that some 9th grade girls are watching hard core porn and “close ups of women's crotches that are accommodating really humongous penises…and wondering why there's so much anal sex in porn”. (See attachment: A New Perspective on Sex Education)

• Dr. Eva Goldfarb, professor and chairperson of the Department of Health and Nutrition Sciences at Montclair State University, received this year’s conference educator award. In her acceptance speech, Dr. Goldfarb shared her personal philosophy that adults should no longer be making the delay of teen sex the focus of health educator’s work. Instead, teach the enjoyment of sexuality and how to be a good lover, therefore becoming sexually smarter and satisfied. Along with that satisfaction, the use of teen birth control to delay pregnancy and prevent STIs would result. Dr. Goldfarb ended her acceptance remarks by singing the following from the musical Hair; “Sodomy, Fellatio Cunnilingus, Pederasty. Father, why do these words sound so nasty? Masturbation can be fun, join the holy orgy, Kama Sutra, everyone!” (Note: Webster’s Dictionary defines pederasty: sexual relations between a man and a boy, usually anal intercourse with the boy as a passive partner.) Her boisterous rendition was received by the crowd of educators with a standing ovation replete with raucous cheers.

• During the conference, copies of the fall 2010 issue of Sex Etc. magazine were distributed to attendees. Sex Etc. is produced by Answer at Rutgers University’s Center for Applied Psychology, with funding from the New Jersey Office for the Prevention of Developmental Disabilities. In this magazine, a full-page chart purported to outline birth control effectiveness rates (pg. 13), included that condoms were 98% effective in preventing pregnancy and the birth control pill was 99.7% effective. Those rates, however, are in-laboratory rates, not “actual use rates,” which are a far more reliable gauge and easily arguable as more important for adolescents when they are being guided through decisions about early sexual involvement.

The chart went on to note that condoms “come in a variety of textures and flavors for oral sex,” but failed to mention the wide disparities in condom effectiveness (e.g., condom failure rates during the first 12 months of use by those under 20 and not cohabitating range from 14% - 23.2%, and for those under 20 and cohabitating, the failure rate ranges from 51% - 71.7% as cited by Alan Guttmacher). Likewise, Guttmacher sites the typical use failure of the birth control pill, at 8.7%. Typical use rates are not what teens are taught in NJ schools through Rutgers’ Answer and Sex Etc. magazine whose tag line is sex ed, honestly.

Despite its stated purpose, NJ Planned Parenthood’s conference was not focused on long-term health goals for teens. Topics such as protecting from sexual diseases and avoiding teen pregnancy by exercising self-control and delaying gratification were not on the agenda. It was more of a pep rally promoting sexual pleasure and offering guidance in minimizing risk for the nearly 300 attendees. This purported “professional development conference” presented unattached sex as costless, as long as it was consensual and contracepted. There was no focus at all on teen sexual activity as a high-risk activity. Where was the upfront medically sound information?

A disturbing omission at this conference was that conference organizers ignored current health science and failed to direct educators to a primary prevention message of risk avoidance. Those are the expected messages at health conferences. You wouldn’t see a health conference on preventing drug abuse that featured instructing educators on how to assist teens on the proper technique for injecting drugs or how to use a bong in order to “minimize their risk”. Though this comparison might be seen as extreme, the results of both these activities have the potential to lead to consequences that tragically alter a teen’s future. New Jersey schools and taxpayers funded educator participation in this conference.

Why didn’t this “Sex Ed Conference,” geared towards middle school and high school educators, in a state that has a Stress Abstinence law (NJSA 18A:35-4.19-20), promote the value of teaching students to delay sexual involvement or reconsider the activity if already involved? Providing educators, and in turn, students, with medically accurate information would seem to be important, if promoting healthy lifestyles and preventing unwanted pregnancies were true goals of the conference.

November 18th & 19th 2010, Greater Northern NJ Planned Parenthood Conference
The Center for Family Life Education at Planned Parenthood of Greater Northern NJ held their 2010 conference on Nov 18th and 19th in Somerset, NJ: http://www.sexedconference.com/

*********************

Dr. Paul Joannides, author of: Guide To Getting It On

Delivered the Keynote: The Conversations We Are NOT Having with Our Teens and Pre-Teens

In a few weeks, I'll be giving the opening keynote address at a conference of sex educators in New Jersey. While I will be among friends there, the message I will be giving is not a popular one. The gist of what I will be saying is that for middle schools and high school students, sex education is usually not sex education at all. Instead, it is sex prevention--with the occasional ovary, testicle, and sanitary napkin thrown in to make it sound like sex education.

Today's sex education is no more about the sexuality that teens and preteens are trying to cope with than creationism is about biology. The agenda is about keeping Jacob's hands out of Emily's pants and keeping Olivia's hands out of Ethan's pants. To say it is not fear based is to bury one's head in abstinence-only sand. Sexually transmitted infections get way more traction than pleasure. A colleague of mine who was about do sex-ed classes for 9th graders polled several of us for suggestions. The responses she received were very thoughtful. They centered around establishing boundaries and limit setting, self respect, explaining puberty, not sending nudie texts, and strategies for delaying sex. I have a more pragmatic view and suggested the following:

First, let's look at the nature of the beast: The chances are good that at least 75% of the boys in your 9th grade class have masturbated in the last 24 hours, some in the shower a few hours before your class. Many of them have probably watched some fairly hardcore porn within the last couple of days. They're waking up with raging boners every morning (even if the wood they are waking up with isn't necessarily sex-related), and during the rest of the day they are thinking about a lot more than puberty and the prevention of STD's.

They are thinking about sex. Chances are good that during the past month, a lot of the girls in your 9th grade class have read articles in Cosmo about how to give guys better blow jobs. Many have watched hardcore porn where there have been close ups of women's crotches that are accommodating really humongous penises. Some are excited about what they're seeing, some are frightened, and some aren't sure what to make of it. Some of the girls might be wondering why there's so much anal sex in porn. And even if the girls haven't seen much porn, a lot of the TV vampire shows are quite sexually exciting and somewhat porn-adjacent. So, where's their reality check? Where's help for 9th graders with what really goes on in relationships? Here's a short list for some of the things that might be helpful for them:

1. Let your students know it's important to talk to a partner about what feels good and what doesn't. Too often, we expect a partner to magically know.

2. The medial terms we have for our genitals can seem stiff and too formal, while slang can sometimes feel too crude. Let them know it can be helpful to talk with a partner about finding comfortable terms for each other's genitals besides just "down there."

3. Discuss how to say "YES" as well as how to say "NO"--and why "yes" needs to be a clear "yes," and why "no" is often not understood and needs to be a clear "no," (While your students might think they are indicating "no," it's often the case that they are not being as clear to others as they might think.) Either way teaching about yes in a positive way is just as important as teaching about no, and it will give you credibility with students as opposed to the usual discussion about "respecting yourself" which tends to be weighted toward saying no.

4. Be sure to mention there will be times when you'll want to say both "yes" AND "no," and how this can be confusing for both you and your partner.

5. Talk about some of the things that women find to be a turn on (and a turn off) about men, and some of the things that men find to be a turn on (and a turn off) about women.

6. Try to normalize periods for both males and females. You might mention the study (I can't swear to the methodology) where students thought more poorly of a girl who dropped an unused tampon out of her purse than when she dropped a pen. You might talk about how periods are a private thing, but private is different from bad or shameful. Periods are nothing a woman should ever feel embarrassed about, and they are nothing a guy should ever make her feel anxious or ridiculed about. You might mention how periods can be unpredictable the first couple of years, how they don't always happen every 28 days, how the total amount of period flow is around 2 to 5 tablespoons total for each period, how the flow is often rust colored instead of bright red and how it's made up of different things besides just blood. This will be especially helpful for the males in your classes to hear about, because males are usually left out of period discussions, yet expected to behave maturely about periods in general. You might say that lots of couples enjoy having sex during periods, but it needs to be something you both want to do.

7. While condoms can help prevent the spread of certain STIs, they aren't the most effective method of birth control. Let your students know that IUDs are a great choice for young women. The NuvaRing can be good as well, because remembering to take a birth control pill every day is something all people struggle with. You only need to forget one or two pills a month, and their effectiveness goes way down. I realize that few of your students' parents are going to support birth control for 9th graders, but it's good to get them thinking about more effective methods of birth control than just condoms. (A goal is to get 17, 18, and 19 year old women using the more effective methods of birth control, so a good time to start talking about this is in 9th grade.)

Q: What body part do as many as 40% of adults use to engage in sexual intercourse, although rarely mention seriously?

A: The anus! In this workshop, participants will discuss facts, attitudes, and safer sex precautions essential in addressing aspects of anal health and/or sexual safety.

Don't Forget About the Good Stuff! Incorporating Positive Messages about Sexual Pleasure into Sexuality Education Kirsten deFur, MPH Sexuality education often focuses on reducing the negative consequences of sexual behavior, but does not always address how sexual activity can feel good! Workshop participants will explore the meaning of sexual pleasure and identify ways to integrate positive messages about pleasure into sexuality education for all ages.

10. It is not necessary to consider the materials, size, and shape of sex toys used for anal play.

FALSE. The anal opening, anal canal, and rectum are capable of expanding. Two sets of muscles, the internal sphincter and external sphincter, surround the anal opening and anal canal and allow sex toys to pass into the anal canal. However, a person must learn how to relax these muscles in order to accommodate items safely and pleasurably within the anal canal and rectum. Individuals are strongly encouraged to pay attention to the physiological feelings associated with insertive anal play. Pain is the body's indication that the play is not safe. Plenty of lubrication is critical for comfortable, safe insertion and withdrawal of a sex toy. (Morin, 2010; Taormino, 2006)

Butt plugs, dildos, and anal beads are examples of sex toys that are designed to stimulate the anal opening, anal canal, and rectum. They come in different shapes, sizes, and textures. (Taormino, 2006) Toys that are small (about the size of a finger) are recommended for individuals new to insertive anal stimulation and play. In order to safely and pleasurably engage in receptive anal play with larger-sized toys (no more than the diameter of two fingers), a person should gradually incorporate sex toys of increasing size over a period of time. (Morin; 2010) Toys containing ragged edges can contribute to tears in the anal tissue. Flared bases are imperative so that a toy does not unintentionally move inside the rectum beyond where it can be reached easily. (Morin, 2010; Taormino, 2006)

11. Condoms are more likely to be used during anal intercourse with a main partner than a casual partner.

FALSE. Several studies document that adolescent and adult condom usage during anal sex has been associated with being in casual partnerships, having multiple or increasing number of sex partners, and using condoms during vaginal intercourse. (Reece, Herbenick, Schick, Sanders, Dodge, Fortenberry, 2010; Leichliter, 2008; Griffin, Snook, Hoff, Cai, & Russell, 2006; Houston, Fang, Husman, & Peralta, 2007) In general, condom use during heterosexual anal sex is low, and occurs less frequently than with .vaginal sex for both adults and adolescents. (Hensel, Fortenberry, Orr, 2010; Houston et al 2007; Exner et. al.. 2008) A nationally representative study on condom usage during anal sex found that gay or ~ bisexually- identified males had more consistent usage than heterosexually identified males. Additionally, a higher percentage of adult men (25.8%) report condom use during anal intercourse than adult women (13.2%). (Reece et al, 2010)

10. It is not necessary to consider the materials, size, and shape of sex toys used for anal play.

Butt plugs, dildos, and anal beads are examples of sex toys that are designed to stimulate the anal opening, anal canal, and rectum. They come in different shapes, sizes, and textures. (Taormino, 2006) Toys that are small (about the size of a finger) are recommended for individuals new to insertive anal stimulation and play. In order to safely and pleasurably engage in receptive anal play with larger-sized toys (no more than the diameter of two fingers), a person should gradually incorporate sex toys of increasing size over a period of time. (Morin; 2010) Toys containing ragged edges can contribute to tears in the anal tissue. Flared bases are imperative so that a toy does not unintentionally move inside the rectum beyond where it can be reached easily. (Morin, 2010; Taormino, 2006)

Adolescent reported condom use during anal sex decreases in long-term relationships with main partners as compared with casual partners and with repeat partners. (Houston et al, 2007) Perhaps these finding are due in part because anal sex itself has been perceived as a contraceptive, main partners are viewed as "safe", and anal sex is viewed as an alternative unplanned sexual behavior to engage in when a female has her period. (Maynard 09; Hensel et al, 2010) Interestingly, one study did Montfort, S. & DiGioia, M.K. (2010). The Bottom Line: Answer Key. To be used with Healthy Endings professional development workshops. The Center for Family Life Education Planned Parenthood of Greater Northern New Jersey. lnc.

Governor Chris Christie has been vetoing the Democrat legislature's Planned Parenthood funding appropriations all year.

You can hear the Senate Budget Chairman berate a post-abortive mother who came to the Committee Meeting to speak about her experience with Planned Parenthood and her subsequent pain, depression and anguish.

Contact the governor and thank him for his previous vetoes and to ask him to continue vetoing the PP funding bills. Also, let him know that HIS Department of Education is giving Continuing Education Credits for teachers who attend these filthy and immoral conferences and request that it stops NOW! And also ask the question why is planned parenthood involved with any school or school teacher at all. It's a non-government organization that is the nation's largest abortion provider and largest purveyor of immorality in the state. There in no need for any local school district to be involved with Planned Parenthood.

Further, let him know that the State of NJ is in an economic crisis and that state funds appropriated to local school boards should not be used for teachers to observe and then teach the children pornography and immoral behavior.

609 292 6000, FAX: 609 292 3454 Click here to email the Governor.

and contact the Commissioner of the Department of Education and demand the same.

Nothing draws the line more succinctly between Liberal and Conservative than seeing these perverts opinions on the sexual behavior of minors and their encouragement of promiscuity! The sexual revolution is still here and it’s coming for the children!

Mel

I wonder if Michelle Obama would like her daughters being “taught” about butt plugs and anal sex at their school?

Of course not. Gratuitous perversion is for the children of peasants. In order to be exposed to such wonders, her kids will have to wait until they enroll at Harvard.

Synonyms: “Public Schools” and “Sodom and Gomorrah”>>

notice the picture of the devil on one of the speaker’s websites.

http://www.goofyfootpress.com/blogs/PaulsBlog/sex-ed/

Dr. Paul Joannides, author of: Guide To Getting It On

Delivered the Keynote: The Conversations We Are NOT Having with Our Teens and Pre-Teens

Link to Paul Joannides’ website. Cursor animates photos. http://www.goofyfootpress.com/

A New Perspective on Sex Education

Blog By Dr. Paul Joannides http://www.goofyfootpress.com/blogs/PaulsBlog/sex-ed/

“What we are not telling our children” - in other words, how dare we teach them self-respect, abstinence, respect for life and respect for others. Yes, how dare we teach our children good values! The people at this conference are sick and would make the ancient Romans blush. Planned Parenthood disgusts me. They corrupt the young and these old satyrs should be ashamed of themselves.

Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.