[KosmicKitty]

I’ve heard this about other boys adopted from Russian. I wonder if it is common and if so why?

I've heard that also. It really is frightening how damaged some of these kids seem to be. There must be some cause for it.

[jerseyrocks]

Morgana first children are not “its” their people, you know precious human life. If she could take her biological child to a hospital why not her adoptive child?

[Mrs. Don-o]

We adopted our younger son from an orphanage in Kamchatka (Russian Far East) when he was close to his 5th birthday. He had a lot of problems they never told us about, including Attachment Disorder, Central Auditory Processing Disorder, gender identity confusion, and other issues.

We were fortunate, however, because my husband was strongly committed to "fathering" and I was free to do full-time home-school hands-on mothering (unlike, in this story, a single, working mother) .

Long story short (very long story very short) there have been many stresses and conflicts, but now--- 13 years later--- he's going along OK.

But a single working mother adopting a child so wounded in so many ways? It would be a disaster.

Vanya still needs --- so much.

We try to hang in there. We pray a lot.