Most people with some sort of pathology are miserable, and most want out of it. But it's always easier to go with the flow rather than make the great effort that's necessary to change your deep-seated habits -- even if you have to put up with shame and ridicule.
And these days, the shame and ridicule is pretty minimal if you move somewhere like the Castro or Inman Park. Which is why there are so many more in-your-face homosexual agitators than there used to be.
I’ve known homosexual people throughout my adult life. “Pain and ridicule” is part of what each was looking for. They lived the victimhood to the max. Including my own sister.
The entire thrust of the gay-rights legal agenda is to put legal barriers in the way of any criticism of the lifestyle whatsoever. This is the basis of the "hate speech" codes, which in other countries have resulted in Christian pastors being jailed for reading the words of scripture concerning homosexual behavior. The stimulus bills in Congress during the present administration are trying to slip "hate speech" punishments under the radar here, mandating Federal penalties.