Amen
I’m not a catholic, but our denomination does not ordain women either. The qualifications are pretty well spelled out in Scripture, and as you have noticed the words “he” and “husband” are used - not ambiguous at all.
Just as Christ is the head of the Church, the man or husband is head of the family, (like it or not ladies),
and the pastor or priest is head of the congregation. It is a male only role.
The family and Church function best when they follow God’s design and rules. Women can serve in a multitude of ways, and we would do better concentrating on the places where we can rightly serve than trying to take over territory not reserved for us.
The one thing that never seems to be highlighted much is that to whom much is given, much is required. Those in the higher places are judged at a different level than those that are not. With the office comes bigger responsibilities, and higher expectations. There are always some advantages to being second in command.