I don’t hold a grudge or blame any of the women I know who have squashed the guys I know into their own 9yearold sons.
I blame the guys for letting it happen.
I called a friend the other day and asked if he was free for poker Saturday night. He asked his wife in the background if it was OK! 39 year old GROWN ASS MAN!!
I never got his answer, I just hung up and wanted to vomit.
Without saying a word, your friend's wife protected the family fortune.
Your friend sounds like an adult. Adults are more concerned about their responsibilities to their families - or at least, whether they already have an event on the calendar - than about the opportunity to run off and play at the drop of a dime, with no thought for anything else.
I think one of the problems in our culture is that the general consensus seems to be that men stop maturing at 16.
Well...hang on a second here....
Mrs. Wbill is the social director in the house. Quite frankly, she'll make plans and tell me about them later. More often than not - they're family related and I'd just as soon attend.
So..."Hey Honey, Am I available for Poker Friday?"...reasonable question.
"Can I Puh-leeeze go out with the guys on Friday?" ....not a reasonable question, IMHO.
Asking his wife about Saturday night is neither childlike or subservient. It's common courtesy. Weekends are the only free time busy, working people have together. If you don't think it's important to at least coordinate that time with your spouse, you don't have much of a marriage. Heck... You should have invited the wife too. I'd rarely accept social invitations that wouldn't include my husband, and I don't think he would either. Not because we aren't allowed, but because we wouldn't want to. Marriages need recreational free time. It's not all about the kids, the bills, the house, the projects... oh - and "why don't you ever want to have sex any more"?
I'm glad I'm not your wife. Common courtesy would dictate he check with his wife about leaving her at home to go play poker on a Saturday night. Most of the couples I know spend Saturday night together whether its as simple as ordering pizza and renting movies or having a "date night". Usually he's been home during the day and his time has been spent doing honey-do's, erranding (with her) or working on a hobby he may have. He's been available and Saturday night is the unwinding time. Heck, even when dating as a teen or college student Saturday is considered the big date night.
Why not have poker on a Friday night? Even then if poker isn't a regular occurrence he should check in with the wife as again, it's common courtesy.
Are you married? Ever been? Just curious.
Just this past Sunday night.. a friend called me to see if I wanted to play in a poker tourney... I “asked” my wife if it was “OK”... But, I was GOING! I knew it, she knew it.. the whole damn world knew it! :-)
Unless she’d told me we were committed to a family funeral, I was going.
After 24 years of marriage, this is my way of communicating to her, that “Hey babe, I’m going to play poker tonight”. And, I get credit for being a “good guy”. You have to know how to play this game!
you want your wife arranging her dates with her girlfriends and expect you to stay home and watch the kids without even asking you?..
my father would never leave the house unless my mom felt she could handle things....I've been married over 30 yrs and not once has my husband not checked with me about most things....just like I check with him....
that's called MARRIAGE.....