You said: depends on who initiates the divorce....if the woman wants out of the marriage, then get out and make it on your own
While it is interesting that you have relatives who are 100% innocent, 100% injured parties, pure as the driven snow, faultless; taken in by sinful, demon women; who lost everything and now have not even two nickels to rub together, the answer is not to punish the person who ends the abuse by filing for divorce. This isn't the Middle East & we don't punish people for ending bad marriages. Even when they are just women.
as a matter of fact, my relative are 100% innocent...my brothers ex wife has been certifed by the court as insane, yet they keep letting her file cases against my brother ( his divorce has been going on for 12 years now ) my brother in law’s ex lied about her inability to work, and has taken everything, including his clothes, and gets alimony, the house,car, and everything else. I fault him for not fighting, but he still loved her, even though she was seeing someone else...even my wife says 90% of all divorces are the womans fault, and after a 50-50 split of the assets, neither one should get anything....and that is what I agree with, split it 50-50, then go the hell away......