“Membership in the civilisation (i.e. EU)”
You should get into your arrogant mind that “homo marriages” and other such “goodies” are not the essence of civilization.
Polish interpretation of history is no doubt different then the one in Estonia, but If we had been them, we would have blown up that thing long time ago.
Those Russian "soldiers" were usually boys between 16 - 21. You can not make them responsible for the crimes of Josef Stalin. To me it seems anyhow that you are trapped in your strange imagination of guilt. All are obviously somehow guilty to you except the Brits, the poor Poles or the Balts. You should know that the world is a littlebit more complicated.
Western Europe is (and was) that sucessfull after the war because we learned to make compromises and not to provoke without reason. If you (or the Balts) want to survive in the long term you should start to do the same. Estonia needs for its survival strong partners in the west. Germany, Finland and Sweden are nessecary as a market, the NATO is nessecary as a provider of security. De facto many of the small countries in eastern Europe hide behind their partners in the west while they provoke the Russians without any need. I do not know if you understand that we western Europeans do not want to be misused by freeloaders. We have interest in strong and stable relations with the Russians and we can/and will not give shelter to barraters forever.
You better ask the Americans if they want to fight a idiotic war around some old graves in Tallin.