Posted on 02/15/2007 12:28:40 PM PST by Rutles4Ever
In a culture where young women take pride in having guilt-free sex with partners they barely know, Nolan and Aparicio are rarities. They have genuine boyfriends, not hook ups.
"I don't know anyone else who's in a relationship, do you?" Nolan asks Aparicio. Nope, no one else.
Hooking up has come to define sexual relationships for most of today's teens and young women. It can mean anything from kissing and touching to oral sex or intercourse. Vagueness is its hallmark. "A girl can say, 'I hooked up with so-and-so,' and no one knows what she did. It protects you and makes you a player at the same time," says Aparicio, who admits to her share of high school hook ups.
---SNIP---
"The C-word, commitment, is the dirty word," Stepp says. "They see relationship as draining you of everything, most of all of your time: You'll have no time for yourself, your girlfriends, your studies, your sports..."
Aparicio says friends at home think she's weird to be in a monogamous relationship. Nolan's relationship is enough of an anomaly among her friends that she says, "Some of them are curious about it -- like it's something foreign."
Stepp is not prudish or unrealistic enough to call for an end to hook ups. "I want girls to stop and think about what they are doing, and where it's going to lead them," she says.
Neither Nolan nor Aparacio knows what the future holds for their relationships. Marriage? Probably not. Aparicio even admits that hook ups with no strings have some appeal. Not that she's looking to break up.
(Excerpt) Read more at boston.com ...
"Am I paranoid or is something afoot?"
Yes, it's called the decline of civilization.
I'm in my late teens, but I'm waiting until I'm married. I went to a Catholic high school, and even there it seemed that many people were sleeping around. Oral sex was actually more common as the girls would still consider themselves virgins. I'm looking at a small Christian college for next year that appears to promote the same ideals.
I do see a decline in civilization. Sex is the main focus on television, advertisements, and leftist agendas. Things seem to be getting worse as look at all the STDs and abortions.
I disagree.
That's precisely what I did, and I ended up marrying my high school sweetheart (we started dating at 15) shortly after graduating from college. Three-point-five years after that we were divorced.
We did not refer to it as hooking up in the old days (college student in the late 70's), but a rose by any other name ... And I went to college in the pretty conservative midwest.
Studying gets done during the day (ok, afternoon and early evening), and the extracurricular activity between the genders during the night.
KILL YOUR TV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"The viewpoint changed with the pill.. like it or not, that's when things went from good girls don't to good girls do, but make sure they don't get pregnant.
That's just reality."
YOU CAN SAY THAT AGAIN
"You would learn more and mature more if you really tried to make a relationship work for a while."
I'd refer to the above comment again. If divorce wasn't as convenient of an option as it is in this day, people would be forced more and more to work things out. There are VERY FEW instances where divorce is necessary, and remember that once you divorce, Christ says you CAN'T MARRY AGAIN(until your former spouse dies, I imagine).
Matthew 5:32
"But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."
Matthew 19:9
"I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
Of course one can find a spiritual leader to tell them anything that their itching ears want to hear, which helps to smooth over the guilt as well.
My daughter is 22 and in college. Everyone she knows wants relationships. And she knows many of them in relationships. I've never heard her mention hook-ups. I'm sure she's aware of them, but the people who prefer them are not in her orbit.
Personally, I thank the Good Lord divorce is so easy to get these days, because it allowed me to detatch myself from my adulterous slut of an ex-wife with the least amount of pain possible. My divorce was painful enough. If, in addition to everything else I was dealing with, I had to jump through hoops in order to get a divorce, or if some hack of a politically-appointed judge "forced" me to "work it out" with the tramp, there's no doubt in my mind I would have murdered someone, or myself.
-----"or if some hack of a politically-appointed judge "forced" me to "work it out" with the tramp, there's no doubt in my mind I would have murdered someone, or myself."----
I feel you on this one.... my brother had to deal with a lying and adulterous woman.....
You know.... when the scriptures were written, these folks were STONED.....
So I believe that living according to the scriptures is MUCH more difficult in a culture that fosters adultery and makes divorce very easy.
Wanting to 'murder someone' in this situation is completely natural. "Back in the day" you wouldn't have had to.... the men at the gate would have taken care of her for you.
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