Skip to comments.Fear not, smart women
Posted on 11/16/2006 7:07:33 AM PST by qam1
Those who say that men don't like women with brains and careers are misleading women, says New York columnist Christine B. Whelan, author of "Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women," published this year.
Ms. Whelan, 29, says she wrote the book, in part, to respond to New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd's claim in her 2005 book "Are Men Necessary?" that success decreases a woman's chance for marriage.
"This isn't good news," Ms. Whelan said about reading the book when she was single and had just finished her doctoral degree in economic and social history. "The social scientist in me knew better than to accept this conventional wisdom without doing research of my own."
Ms. Whelan researched U.S. Census Bureau data, commissioned a national opinion survey and conducted interviews with more than 100 high-achieving men and women in nine cities to gather material for her book. What she found was that high-achieving women -- women with graduate degrees and/or an income in the top 10 percent of women in their age group -- married at the same rate as all other women did, but later in life, and that outdated information and misinterpreted statistics had women believing otherwise.
She calls these women SWANS, or Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse
The statistics Ms. Whelan provides in her book show that American women marry by an average age of 30 if they have a graduate degree, the median age for all women to marry is 25, and 90 percent of women marry by 44.
"Ms. Dowd is painting the wrong picture for our generation," Ms. Whelan said, adding that Ms. Dowd was right in saying that prior to the 1980s, it was more difficult for smart, successful women to get married and have children............
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Good, cuz I was going to have to come over there and pound ya otherwise.
(And he's just way good-lookin'.)
Those, too! ;-)
But I've gotta confess that it's the intelligence factor that I like.
All the rest is just icing on the cake.
Well, happy birthday, Rat! Don't give up. Miss Right will come along when you least expect it. There ARE still some good women out there....don't settle for anything less!
Try the Midwest. The melting pot of the down-home New England transplants. :)~
My husband is currently renovating our bathroom. I'm sure, at this moment, he'd rather have a woman who can install a toilet rather than proofread his business letters, but, we can't have it all, can we? LOL!
True. Some of the University inhabitants I know couldn't survive off campus without an interpretor. Sadly, some of them are family members that we have been unable to deprogram.
Usually if a woman tells you she's a strong woman, they're very insecure. I always challenge them to arm wrestle.
On GMA this morning, a little girl in the audience was asked (the answer was already known) where she was from. She said "Southfield." "And what state is that in?" was the next question. She wasn't sure.
The next question was why she was in NYC - her mother, standing behind her, said, "Because she got straight A's."
That's OK - one university last week passed a rule that it was now OK to use "texting" language on exams and in papers. U no - LOL
Well, sure - those are code words. Nobody, man or woman, brags about how "strong and independent" they are unless they are full of self-doubt.
The most intelligent and high-achieving professional woman I know is such a sweetheart you would never guess what she does for a living unless she told you. And most of the women I've known who fit the "Amazon bitch" mold (and there really aren't many) are borderline incompetent, and they try to bully people to cover that up.
From the Jimmy Buffett school of thought:
*I'm looking for a smart woman in a very short skirt.*
I dono my wife proofreads my reports and can not only install a toilet, shes willing to help pull out a used one at a demolition sale... a MUCH nastier job. But then, shes a remarkable woman thats why I married her.
ROTFLMAO. I wonder if that will be satisfactory. lol.
Here is an example of the new language that is being used more and more:
Sorry I forgot to phone you. I will see you tomorrow'
soz i 4gt 2 fon u.i c u 2moz (I can't even imagine using this in school). No wonder kids can't read).
"I saw nothing wrong with the comment. So quit being so crabby about it."
Ooooooh, ok. As long as YOU saw nothing wrong with it, then it's ok. I was waiting for you to weigh in on it, now I know what to think.
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