"Exactly my point. You are the supremo and she merely assists."
No merely about it in my marriage. My wife and I work as a team. Without either of us carrying our weight the family would suffer.
>>>No merely about it in my marriage. My wife and I work as a team. Without either of us carrying our weight the family would suffer.>>>
Hmmm, that would seem to be the definition of partner. Of course we are splitting hairs here. But as a woman (and you might be surprised to find, unless she is completely brainwashed) might not find it nice to be referred to as the 'helper'. That's why I like partner. Equal ground, equal in all ways. We may do different things, such as he tends to the garden, I do the cooking and canning. But we are partners shouldering the work equally but in different ways. But I am not his 'helper', I find that distasteful.