[wagglebee]

This is a great commentary on ways to protect marriage.

[wagglebee]

Ping.

This is a great article on military families and the temptations they face (not necessarily for you but for others).

[Mount Athos]

I guess the text of this kit must be on the web somewhere?

[wagglebee]

Moral Absolutes Ping.

Little Jeremiah should be back to pinging this list sometime today.

[SauronOfMordor]

When the chaplain said real women at home couldn’t measure up to the impossible pictures, I thought of this woman I had seen years ago in a bookstore on base in Japan.

And how many non-fiction men can measure up to the fictional men in the "romance novels" that so many women read incessantly?

[Luke21]

Reminds me of the people who tell alcoholics, "Just stop drinking." This woman has no idea of why men use porn. It's always so easy to condemn another person's sin, one that you, yourself don't practice...

[balch3]

Does the military still hand out condoms? That seems at odds with this program.

[Fierce Allegiance]

As if porn is a big breaker-upperer of marriage?

[Ace of Spades]

You mean our soldiers overseas don't act like a bunch of choirboys? Im shocked! Shocked! /s

[one more state]

Nice try. Military men and women have a hard road to go. Marriage is about two people being together not separated by thousands of miles. If it take pornography and masturbation to keep them faithful to each other so be it. I don't think there is one answer to help marriage.

[one more state]

Abstinence and burkas seem to work for Muslims, but then again they get to rape women that don't where burkas.

[Celtjew Libertarian]

When my wife and I married, our porn collections merged with the rest of our collections. Both of us continue to enjoy porn. In fact, when we go to a adult book store, it's usually at her suggestion not mine.

Our marriage is based as much on shared values and friendship, as it is on romance. Both of us are quite aware of the difference between fantasy and reality. Because of this, pornography does not pose a threat to our marriage. Nor does porn threaten any marriage that is based on a stable foundation.

[Extremely Extreme Extremist]

How big a problem is porn in the military, per the Chaplain? I'd say the situation he described is just one out of a few dozen. Isolated incidents. Doesn't even crack the 1% barrier.

Yet another stupid "expose" by ABC News trying to weaken and water down the military some more.

[mugs99]

"I can’t stop thinking about that woman in the bookstore"
Still has a crush on her after all these years!

This is a great commentary on ways to protect marriage
If porn is a threat to your marriage, you don't have much of a marriage to begin with.
.

[Hildy]

OK, I'm am going to be burned for this...but I think women overreact to their men watching porn. Unless it's of an obsessive nature, I see nothing wrong with it. And there's alot of women who agree with me. The more women screech with horror about it, the more men want to view it. Why don't women get it. Men are sexual creatures. Unless they want to satisfy their men every single time the men want it, then they should shut up and give their man a little freedom, for God's sake. Flame away...I'm ready to rumble.

[NavyCanDo]

Thanks for the Post. As I expected there are a few follow-up post with opposing “porn is no big deal” opinions, but take it from someone who has "been there done that", porn can grow into a big problem in marriages, for destroying a guys self esteem, and for costing a person thousands of dollars over time which it did me. With God's help I think I have finally escaped its clutches, and it wasn’t easy with on the onset of the World Wide Web where it’s easy access to about anything.

[bordergal]

See thread further down the page.

ROTTERDAM - The twelve youths who are blamed for a number of gang rapes since 2004, have had no sexual education. They themselves admitted that they had learned their sexual knowledge of man woman relationships mostly from porno films.

[TheWriterTX]

During my first and last pregnancies (two sons), I experienced a rather high level of testerone production. Wow, what a difference it made in the way I viewed the world and reacted to things. I became very focused at home and at work, very aggressive if I felt threatened or my health concerns were not taken seriously, and very....well...just use your imagination. For the first few months of both, my husband was a very happy man.

As the pregnancies progressed, and things became complicated (I was prone to premature abruption), romantic get togethers had to be shelved. So here I was, with all these hormones rampaging through my system, and incapable of pursuing the ususal means to alleviate their effects; so I wiped the dust off the few porn videos my husband had from his bachelor days.

Now that the pregancies have passed and my hormone levels are back to normal, the videos are back in their lonely spot, tucked behind layers of other videos. Still, it gave me a bit of insight into the needs of men, and how they can be vastly different from women, and I'm more attuned to my husband because of it.

It didn't cause any problems in this marriage, but I know of marriages where it did. My girlfriend's husband was addicted to porn, would watch it all the time, and wanted her to do all the different things that the porn stars were doing (and pushing for surgery to enhance her looks, too). It made her feel undesireable and unloved in her own marriage; it wasn't until she asked for a divorce did he snap out of it and get some counseling. Thankfully, they were able to get past it and are still married today.

[Warhammer]

bookmark for later.

[DJ Taylor]

Jacey Eckhart

"WHEN A MILITARY chaplain appeared on ABC News last week talking about how pornography is becoming a problem for troops overseas, I listened. When the chaplain said real women at home couldn’t measure up to the impossible pictures..."

The problem, as stated by Ms. Eckhart is simply that servicemen who use porn while overseas as a subsitute for sex with their wives frequently prefer their porn sex life over sex with their wives when they return from overseas. Without seeing their wives, I cannot comment on their choice.

[Zeroisanumber]

...the kits promote Bible-based abstinence: no pornography, adultery, nonmarital sex or masturbation.

You'd have a better chance of teaching young men to fly to the moon than give up everything on that list. Why not set your sights on keeping adultery to a bare minimum and let boys be boys?