Sounds as tho you have been there; I have. It's the unexpected kindness that penetrates the protective shell of "Everything is o.k., don't worry about me".
Yup. There's hardly a woman alive who hasn't been there. Not in as public a venue as Mrs. Alito, of course, but shared similar feelings.
Oh, and now naive Alan Colmes is saying that no one thinks Alito is a racist. Riiiight.