Perhaps I replied to his post out of context? For his actions he deserves no respect. A husband always deserves respect, a wife always deserves respect, a president always deserves respect. A rude, crude, crass, and otherwise socially objectionable person does not deserve respect.
(Were they not talking about husbands and wives? If not I guess I'm guilty of posting without reading again)
It's true it's all mixed up, that's the way these forums go. His post about respect being earned was just about the only fair and reasonable thing he's said on this thread so far. Husbands earn respect by being loving husbands. Love and respect is still earned, even in marriage, perhaps especially in marriage.
You know this... I know you do. You know there is a responsibility to remain respectable even after marriage. There's more in the vows besides 'till death do us part'.