"It lowers self-esteem, it lowers trust, it creates profound self-doubts about oneself, it creates future difficulties in terms of intimacy and trust."
Substitute "destroys" for "lowers" and he's hit it right on the head.
You NEVER "get over it" and it taints everything you do, think, feel or believe for the rest of your life.
Another poster used the word "haunts".
Very apt.
You become one of the walking wounded and you wind up haunting yourself.
ALL child molestors kill their victims.
It's just that some of the victims are "lucky" enough to keep on breathing after it's over.
Ditto on your post.....
If someone cuts off a kids arms, they're a monster.
But if they steal their innocence and childhood, no biggie.
You NEVER get over it, NEVER.
It's just that some of the victims are "lucky" enough to keep on breathing after it's over.
Well said.
Truer words were never spoken, I was abused as a child and it does destroy you. Yes you move on but the damage is always there under the surface.