[Mama25]

Wait. I think we agree...I don't mean the dazzling things...I mean that mutual courtship is a GOOD thing. I like to see my man going to some extra effort for me, and I respond by going to extra effort to please him. (mine happens to really love pie, so that's one way I do that)

The MUTUALITY of the courtship is important. And his willingness to pursue me tells me I am important to him, as my willingness to respond tells him he is important to me.

I am not talking about Dior watches - i'm talking about bringing me an air tank when I have a slow leak in my tire so that I can get to the tire repair place safely in the morning.

[gamarob1]

Fair enough. I've met too many women who defined a relationship as the man's ability to do everything in "winning her over". Then my wife came along, and it just happened. I didn't have to "win" her, I didn't have to do much of anything. We both just, clicked. I prefer it that way myself. Either it's the right person, or it isn't, and then I don't really have to do things

And now that we're married, I have the energy to treat her in the most special way I know how, because she is the one. Maybe to some I'm doing it backwards, but it worked out beautifully for me, somehow.

[Rca2000]

That is what the little, portable air compressors are for-- I keep one in my van. It cost about $15.