Posted on 06/10/2005 4:10:52 PM PDT by scripter
It was very eye-opening.
I would have to say #4 is much higher, but the shame and fear probably continues to keep people from dealing with it. #4 could be overcome with a strong family unit, so that makes it twice as bad.
I pray for these folks who have such inner turmoil.
They aren't to be shunned - they are to be loved and helped.
Don't forget, grandfathers, uncles, or your brother-in-law could make for wonderful role models, as well.
I'm sorry for your loss, so please don't burden yourself. You have wonderful stories to share with him about his dad, and that may be who he will aspire to be!
My thoughts exactly, he is nine and remembers him well. So trying to keep him as alive as possible for him. Thanks.
ping.
Last year I decided to concentrate more on the ex-gay/former homosexual aspect of the issue, as the very existence of ex-gays tends to help folks better focus on the real issues.
I suspect there is something to that. I've noticed that excessive narcissism seems to be prevalent in the gay community, although it tends to be very much on the surface without a lot of introspection.
I suspect this is overcompensation for feelings of inferiority or inadequacy, and a lot of the behavior is an unhealthy reinforcement mechanism to compensate.
You're right, that's the silver bullet. As much as I try to research the science end of the equation, it's all null and void if the ex-gay movement gets legs in the MSM. It'll take dragging the pro-sodomy activists out the door by their heels.
I have a nephew and a BIL who would, according to this, be very at risk for homosexuality.
My nephew, raised without a male figure until he was five and then by a step father he pretty much despised and could not relate to. Though, the step father was a decent man. My sister and myself really raised him. And, yes we smothered and did coddle him.
Though, he has been married and had children, I often have wondered if he had some issues about his sexuality when he was younger. He went through some difficult periods and I often wonder if he went to the other side for material needs. If that makes sense.
Now, my brother in law was raised very similarly. No father figure to speak of. Smothering mother. BUT, he did have my husband as a role model and to keep his butt in line. Strangley, my husband (ten years older) did have the father around during most of HIS youth and had him as more of a role model.
So, I would never even consider my BIL going over to the dark side. EVER. I think having the older brother decreased his vulnerability.
Intersting article, I think there is alot of truth there.
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I've heard this guy speak a few times. As a former homosexual is a MUST for this topic:
http://www.sbministries.org/
and
http://stephenbennett.blogspot.com/
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That makes a lot of sense.
...as children or youth, they had been sexually abused by an older or more powerful person. Usually it was by a male, and in those cases, 96% considered the abuse to have contributed to their developing SSA feelings.
But this makes NO sense. Why would they be attracted to the gender that abused them? You'd think it would be the opposite.
Because molestation of boys often involves sexual pleasure for them as well. It's molestation/seduction.
It's a lot easier for boys to experience sexual pleasure even while being molested than girls. It's crude, but it's the nature of the beast.
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