Then we disagree fundamentally. I believe marriage does not require than one cease to be a sexual being---it simply requires that one remain faithful to the vows he or she made to his or her spouse.
You can see from my posts so far, that I'm talking about deliberate sexual arousal. Christ said that if you "look at a woman to lust after her," you have "committed adultery with her in your heart"--- and he knows more about male humanity than anyone who has ever lived. He knows maleness. He loves maleness. He experienced maleness. He invented maleness.
So if you deliberately set yourself up to trigger a sexual reaction with Video Voom-Voom Vivienne, you're violating your marital vows with her whether you ever get your realtime hands on her or not.
I'm not talking here about spontaneous, involuntary sexual attractions, feelings and reactions. I have gone through periods of my life where fantasies were persistent, penetrating, and pert-near persuasive. I struggled to be free of enslaving, burning thoughts; it was difficult; but I didn't pour gasoline on them in the form of pornography.
"No. One of the major (and, no matter what your age, ongoing) projects of sexual maturity is to direct and channel your sometimes anarchic sexual appetite toward your spouse and nobody else."
"Then we disagree fundamentally. I believe marriage does not require than one cease to be a sexual being---it simply requires that one remain faithful to the vows he or she made to his or her spouse."
One thing that neither of you have mentioned is that the people who make the pornography engage in behaviors that are degrading at best, and in consuming their product you make yourself a party to that degradation.
Fruit of the poisoned tree.