The divorce rate is approaching 50%, with most divorces initiated by women. The overwhelming majority of these men trusted the girl when they married her. Several of them were friends of mine who got raped in the divorce.
No matter how much you trust a person NOW, and no matter how trustworthy a person is this week, people change. There is no guarantee that the woman you love and trust this week will not turn into a 14-ct b***h in 10 years
And yes, I'm married. Have been for 20 years. I guess I'm just a bit luckier than my friends (so far)
I would question whether the assumption that because someone initiated the divorce would mean that they are '(ir)responsible' for the divorce. Could be just a terrible situation that needs to end.
Full disclosure... my BF is divorced. She initiated. He played a role - perhaps 10%... She's as mean as sin, so things have been very tough for him. Is he getting 'screwed' financially? Yes, but he believes in living up to his obligations towards his kids. And one day, his kids will definitely want to get away from her. Her 'angry' voice (the only one I have ever heard) physically upsets me.
I would recommend to all men, especially younger men, to buy, read and study "The Predatory Female". It's available at Amazon.com for $8.95. It "blows the lid off", completely, utterly and totally.
Feminism has destroyed, in my opinion, an overwhelming majority of at least two generations of American women -- and there's no end in sight. They are unmarriable. But not just for the reason of the risk of a man getting raped in divorce court, but for a lot of other reasons, such as (1) more than half of American women are disgustingly overweight gastropods, yet they think they're "all that", (2) it seems that every "woman" under 30 thinks it's "fashionable" to dress like a whore, and (3) according to one recent study a "woman" of 25 years of age has already slept with an average of 30 guys; and something like 30% of females in that age bracket have one or more STD's.
But not to worry! If you've seen the TV commercial for "Valtrex",... "It's a brand new day!". That's right girls, go ahead and be a total slut in your twenties and early thirties, then, when you're tired of dating outlaw bikers and "bad boys", and your biological clock starts ticking, and you want to settle down with a decent man, there's Valtrex!
But you know what? No decent man would want to take marriage vows with a slut.