[netmilsmom]

>>At Galloway Township Middle School, students must sit in the seats they're assigned to during lunch hour. The girl, a seventh-grader, has been cited three times for violating the policy.<<

I would tell my daughter that she broke the rules three times and now has to live with the consequences. If she had come to me while still following the rules and ask that I try to do something about it, I would go to the administration and campaign for her.
If she were at a job and broke the rules (no matter how unfair they seem) she would lose her job. This parent has missed a valuable lesson to teach his daughter. There are right ways and wrong ways to do things.

[momfirst]

This parent has missed a valuable lesson to teach his daughter.

I totally agree with your reasoning. There is a right way and a wrong way to deal with situations.

For example, my son plays trumpet and loves it. This year, new teacher, a real jerk, literally. I'm not the only parent or student that realizes he's a bit lacking in the common decency arena. Many students have dropped band this year and the school staff realizes this teacher is the reason.

My son came home with a slip for being obnoxious at a concert competition. His defense - he's put up with this guy all year and he's tired of listening to him. I understand and hear what he's saying, BUT, he broke the rules. He pays the consequences. I have already talked to the school about the teacher many times, there is nothing they can do due to contracts. This does not give my son the liberty to mouth off back at the teacher.

[Experiment 6-2-6]

I would tell my daughter that she broke the rules three times and now has to live with the consequences.

The problem, as I see it, is not that she is being punished, but being punished for having "broken" the rule for three weeks before these gestapo "discovered" that she had been out of her assigned seat. As a lawyer, this is not three times. It's either 21 times (three weeks out of her seat) or 1 time (you just got caught "breaking the rule")

I mean, these are TRULY IRS TACTICS:

WHAT? YOU HAVEN"T PAID TAXES THIS YEAR? OR THE PAST THREE YEARS?

Ignore the fact that they missed this for three weeks, though it's their job to make sure the little kiddies obey.