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Good News outa Bad News here.

Last summer I fell off of the chaste wagon for a couple of months for a young handsome stud but stupid as the dullest crayon in the box. The pool boy. He even comes from a wealthy family from Mass.
who he is somewhat estranged from.

Well after I broke it off with him and told him he was not welcomed in our home or anywhere near it, he was out for what he could get but I saw it coming and in a very friendly way parted from the relationship.

Dummy kept calling and trying to nudge back in as predators do. We met a few times under the guise to run my dogs and I picked a place that had video security (it is a terrorist target) just to be on the safe side. This guy was not a threat in a physical sense just a gigolo who had a lousy game.

Anyway since he could not get over on me he quickly went for his next target and stupidly told me everything and I mean everything. Mean while over the past six months I was hearing a little here and there about what a jerk this guy was down to using his son to gather sympathy to use men and women.

I stopped meeting with him as he was falling off the deep end using meth. with his new victim/girlfriend and getting really tweeky/dangerous.

Yet he continued to call pouring his soul out.

I listened until I had heard enough.
I alerted authorities the local Sheriff Dept. to the danger this woman was in.

See he told me he wanted to kill her by stuffing ice cubes down her throat and told me this on more than one occasion amongst all the predator hobbies he had going on. It got really sick and twisted listening to his confessions.

Well the Sheriff dept. was not interested in a crime that had not been committed and even asked why I did not go tell this woman she was in harms way, I told them I don't mess in peoples lives personally but do have a conscience and felt it important enough to tell the authorities let them sort it out. I did not tell them all the other freaky things he told me.

He was proud that he was taking her for every penny she had. Meanwhile giving thanks to God I was street smart from growing up in my youth to see what he was and certainly had my antennae up after hanging out here on this thread for over a year now.

All Scott Petersons are predators and eventually like all mental illnesses left untreated progress into crimes like murder.

They get to narcissistic and confident in their evilness as well as lacking any empathy for others.

Well I read in the paper since I had told him to stop calling my cell period he was to sick of a man and that I would turn him in to authorities if he called anymore the calls stopped pronto.
Then I read in the paper that he flipped the womans car that he was scamming with her and her three young kids in it. All went to the hosp but doing ok but she was cited for letting him drive knowing he was suspended and had over six citations for DWS and uninsured.

Low and behold two weeks ago I get a call from a female Police Officer investigating him.

I sat down and told her everything I knew and I mean everything down to the embarrassment that I had a brief romp with him.

She thanked me for my info and said it strung little pieces she had all together and details he had shared with me gave her just what she needed to go to the DA.

What she did tell me is that she too thought he was very charming, alluring and a nice guy but things didn't add up. She said the current victim did get a restraining order and her house that he remodeled looked like a destruction crew hit it. The things he shared with me in phone calls as if I was his priest she said really helped but even scared her. I will spare all of you way to creepy.

She called me again last week and I told her I would not ever testify or get more involved with her case as I have my family and life to go on with but I knew he would hang himself eventually. She told me he had sent his son to the boy's mom and was on the run the thought was since he still considered me "the nice lady" as he referred to me to others that he might contact me out of desperation, so I had my home watched and scanner on and it was a bit scary for 24hrs even hearing that they thought they had him down the road from my place.

They got him and he is going to be locked up for awhile. I gave info so his family could be alerted to what he has been up to.

Moral of the story don't fall off the chaste wagon. I am very strong and dominant in a good way and extremely independent and don't trust anyone.

I knew the affair was wrong kinda had the Dudley Moore in"10" mid life child thing going on. What saved me was the good sense to know it was wrong and get up and walk away as his friend but knowing he would continue to target other women he had to be stopped.

He knew I was not going to be his victim and he knew I had every detail of his life from who his Dad is and he didn't want me to make that phone call and enlighten him all the way down to his SSI # and like I said details that would freak ya'll out.

I guess I should thank all of you because I certainly learned allot over the past year and it definitly made a differance on how I handled the situation.

The big thing is don't allow yourself to be a victem. Don't put up with anyones sh** and they will not hang around. LOL Maybe that is why I have been single for the past 20yrs.

OMG OP!! What a nightmare! I sit hear moaning about being lonely from time to time, but when my friends accuse me of being too picky, I tell them that I'm being picky because not only do I have to look out for my own safety, but my young children, first and foremost!
Thanks for sharing this lesson....

Whoa, WHAT a tale, OP!!

And good for YOU for being one less victim of this conscienceless sicko!!!

"Don't put up with anyone's sh**." Sounds harsh; sounds mean, blah blah blah... but you know, OP, there's no better advice!! This doesn't mean we have to confront and crush all the people who hand us sh**; it means, rather, that we need to know b.s. when we see it, and simply refuse to tolerate it, even if it means never speaking to the person again.

And to me, your advice does NOT sound "harsh" or "mean"--it just sounds SMART.

Some would tell you, "Oh, just stay away... run... don't do anything... you might get into trouble..." But then you have to ask yourself, do I want to keep running away all the time? Or do I want to put out the word that I am not someone who will quietly go under a manipulative person's harmful spell? The second alternative seems much the better one, to me. "Live free or die", as that state motto goes.

Congratulations to you, for being one less fool in the world!

Good for you OP. Sounds like your common sense rose up and took control just in time. NEVER speak to the creep again. When the right man comes along, you will know it.

WOW, OP! So glad that you were able to recognize a dangerous situation and that you got away from that creep. Better yet that he's locked up!

Wow, OP, what you have been through. The power of the cult of personality. I am sure that once those little ones learn how to get everything they want out of mommy, they go on to see the world as THEIRS; they just have to know how to wheedle what they want out of everyone.

Your story makes me realize that the stricter I am with my kids, probably the better for them. I want my children to grow up GOOD. I think maybe these boys like your guy and Scotty started out with winning looks and strong personalities, but it took an enabling Mom to allow them to develop into amoral narcissists. I PRAY I don't do that with my sons. I am very easygoing but that doesn't have to mean SPOILING them into narcissists.

So glad you told all and got out of there. Stay safe.