[luckystarmom]

My only problem with Dr. Laura is her view of sex. I think men need to be a little more understanding of women and sex. For one thing, having kids can really mess you up. When I was pregnant with twins, we had sex I think twice in a year because of medical problems. I then had lots of problems even after they were born. I don't think a lot of men would put up with that. Thank God, mine did, but it did cause a lot of stress.

I'm not really looking forward to menapause because I think things will get messed up again.

[AppyPappy]

The key is to TRY. Men and women view sex differently. A woman will be unable\unwilling to have sex and then complain because her husband turns to porn or affairs. She is saying (in his eyes) "Sex is not important to me". Men see lack of sex as rejection. So a man might summise "As long as she doesn't care about sex, I'll go somewhere else where I won't face rejection".

A woman may say "I shouldn't have to do this to satisfy him" and she would be right. But someone else might be willing to do it.

One thing that has amazed me is the number of women who say their husbands hold out on them. I guess it is starting to affect both now.