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So even if your husband meets your demands, you will have no basis to trust him either.

I haven't demanded this of him...I know that that is between him and God and the only thing I can do is pray.

Perhaps you need to ask yourself if it's really God that you don't trust or if you simply don't trust your own willingness or ability to hear Him.

I think my agreement with what is being posted on here shows a willingness to hear him...What is lacking is that trust that "all things work to the good for those who love God." I've lost that peace that surpasses all understanding. In its place is doubt, confusion, and feeling like I lack the ability to get back to where I was. Very hard to explain...

Running out to the store now...we have snow here. Must get the milk and bread...8 * )

Want to say thanks again for all those of you who are taking the time to discuss a stranger's personal problems. Much of it is confirming what I already knew, but sometimes don't want to accept. "The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak."

My ex wasn't very affectionate and avoided sex whenever possible. I never cheated on her and she left me, but it wasn't for anyone else. She was a perfectionist and nothing was ever good enough. I am not going to pretend your husband is perfect nor that affairs are ever appropriate; but you might want to figure out what needs he wasn't having met.

If you are like my ex, there comes a point in time when a man who used to do lots of things to please his wife, but gets nothing in return, will eventually stop trying to please his wife because the results are the same. It doesn't hurt as much to be rejected when you simply stop trying to please your unappreciative spouse.

Not claiming I know your entire situation, but you just might want to consider your possible role in your husbands decision to have an affair. Withholding sex and affection is just as sinful as going outside a marriage for sex. They are both broken covenants.

You should either read Dr. Laura's book or do your husband a favor and divorce him. I wasn't going to divorce my ex because I made a vow before God. She divorced me and I have been greatly encouraged by the number of middle-aged single Christian women that look forward to having a very active and uninhibited sex life with a future husband.

How about trying to do what Dr. Laura suggests; act like you love him and 'F' his brains out. Guys don't care about your motivation, and you might find you enjoy it as well. Unless he is an abuser or alcoholic, a woman like that would have no competition for her man.