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Damned if you do or damned if you don't?

Almost! (see also: #574 :)

Too much expensive gifting is a warning sign to the sadder-but-wiser girl. (Some perfectly-happy-but-also-wise girls get warned by their mothers, or are simply bright enough to be careful.)

Will a woman get tired of the same old one hundred dollar flowers and eventually start analyzing and questioning in the same manner I described? Well, she might like the flowers well enough, but she might start wondering about WHAT THEY MEAN.

If all you ever do for her is give her flowers, its going to MEAN something... :)

If they become a pattern... she will do what women do, and overlay the pattern on the context... and she will put her mind to the task.

You will come out ahead if the context is of a smooth-sailing relationship, where gift giving hasn't gotten stale, and where the flowers haven't come to form a strong association with something negative, e.g., become a form of apology for some misdeed, or reflective of guilt feelings for something one should feel guilty about.

She will think such flowers are a poor substitute for
being a good boyfriend/husband, and that perhaps you are trying to get one over on her...

Ask my advice? Vary the pace; buy her a little something and it will generally be received with glee. If you buy her a "little something" of the same thing (and never the best) all the time, and she won't like it as much.

Buy her the best too soon and too often, and she will get suspicious.

Buy her the best only when you do wrong, and she will come to hate it.

Don't give at a pace that can't realistically be kept up (e.g., a rose every time you meet) - it will be crushing the first time you come empty-handed ('cause that will MEAN something.)

A little posey now and then, peppered with a luxurious SOMETHING now and then... now that would suit most women well.

That would MEAN you are always thinking of her, and that you think she's worth some work once in a while. :)

You're conversation is hysterical...and hits home quite a bit.

When my husband and I first got married, he would bring me home 'convenience store' roses all the time. Eventually, of course, I tired of them and would just murmur 'thanks' and stick them wherever. Then I stopped getting any flowers at all.

Years later, I received some more expensive flowers at work after mentioning that all the other girls got flowers. Well, of course they didn't mean as much because I had to put the idea in his head...

Maybe the key is to act from the heart...but definitely ACT! 8 * )