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Not every marriage is doomed. MOST have a rocky start, though. My husband and I each had to learn some important things before we found bliss.
I had to learn that he loves me deeply even though he doesn't bring me flowers. Love is a feeling and he shows it in his own way. Then I had to learn how to recognize and accept his gestures of love for what they were. (He bought me a 16", $80.00 chef's knife for Christmas. How much more love and trust can there be, fer the love of Pete?!) In short, I had to learn how to ALLOW him to please me. The poor guy was trying.

He had to learn that when work was stressful he was to turn TO me, not ON me. I'm on HIS side. He also had to learn that it takes more than a paycheck to make a husband a good husband. The guy would kill himself working for me, but didn't know how to sit by the fire and have a mundane conversation.

My L-rd, you are wise. I hope to find a woman who has your wisdom, and your ability to see clearly and with tolerance, love, and understanding.

I was so busy with the other issues on this thread I almost missed this.

Thank you for the compliment, but remember that wisdom only comes from experience. Most of us learn these things by accident and reflection. (what went wrong?) You'll do much better the second time around if you choose a woman who isn't too green. It took me a painful 5 years to get this stuff straight and it took my husband that long to stop using work as an excuse not to be a husband. I think I did my best growing up when I was in my mid-20's.

Pleeeese don't go for a woman who wants children, but talks more about her future plans for her job! It take sacrifice to have a loving marriage and most women aren't up to the challenge now-a-days.