Dr. Laura Schlessinger: 'The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands'

WorldNetDaily.com ^ | Tuesday, January 6, 2004 | Dr. Laura Schlessinger

[Eaker]

Umm.. doesn't the Min-Pin constitute a concealed weapon?

Only if they are over five pounds!!!

[MEGoody]

"THAT is how offended I was."

By the title? Wow, so I guess you didn't read the rest of the article.

[Yaelle]

This whole thread has me tearing up. I agree with her and even WANT to treat my man the way she says. Alas, it doesn't do any good. She is so worried about the poor men who are living hurt and frustrated every day by neglect from their wives. It's not only the men.

[hopespringseternal]

Oh, please. My wife harasses me incessantly.

I'm happy for you.

But I have never met a man who had that problem anywhere but on the internet. Every wife I have ever spoken with face to face has said the same thing: "He wants sex too much and too often." They don't say he is bad at it. They insist they enjoy it. Just not as often as her husband. Ask them how often they have sex and it is usually once or twice a month and then only because her husband badgers her into it. Ask her when the last time she actually initiated sex and you find that it is usually at six month intervals and then only for some reason other than the sex itself.

Every husband I have spoken with face to face not only wants sex more often, but would like to believe that she has any sexual desire for him at all and sees no evidence of it. I will say this in all honesty: Of all the parents, brothers, sisters, friends, coworkers and general acquaintances where this subject has come up in a face to face conversation, I have never heard any variance from this exact situation.

[Woahhs]

But as it is important for women to understand how men are different, they must, in turn, understand that we are emotional creatures. It is the basis for what makes us truly feminine.

I would be most interested in hearing how "emotional creature" is defined. It seems to me a catch-all phrase used to introduce superfluous information for the purpose of directing negotiations toward a predetermined goal.

[technochick99]

I may be adding another foster girl to the pin posse at my house. There are so many turn-ins it's so sad. But they really aren't the dogs for everyone. But the good news is that I now the Volunteer Recruiter for IN/IL area, and I preach the joys of min pins everywhere. :)

But as far as being a concealed weapon, they are much too loud for that!

[chris1]

She is right in some respects, the almost instant feeling of rejection is very hurtful to a man, regardless of the reason she does not want to have sex.

[rintense]

Good points! But why is that we can discuss it here, but then can't apply it in real life when it matters most?

An excellent question! I wish I had the answer. Truly, I think fear has a lot to do with it. We all build up walls and when the possibility arises that we just might have to break one of them down, it gets scary.

[chris1]

I have tried - negotiations don't work with women on this one.

[January24th]

"When they are treated with the Three A's, they naturally, and in gratitude and affection, give their women the attention, regard, respect, support and love they want."

Okay, but Dr. Laura needs to write a book for the men who were tutored (or neutered) by clueless women. The don't NATURALLY respond when their nature hasn't been nurtured correctly. What a dream world she lives in!

[chris1]

You are right, we get conditioned to accept certain behaviors and responses and then act as if they are always present. Too bad. Its tough not to do it, we are human and react as such.

[aCookieMomster]

I agree with you. If you listen to her radio show every time there is a woman in an abusive situation she spends extra time with her and guides her to make a decision to get out of the situation THAT DAY to a place where she will be safe.

Abuse is one of her 3 A's of acceptable reasons for divorce. (abuse, abandonment, adultery).

[MEGoody]

I think you meant to post this to someone else. But I agree with you.

[MEGoody]

"The don't NATURALLY respond when their nature hasn't been nurtured correctly."

If the guy is decent at heart, he will. But it takes patience and probably some plain communication. After all, men aren't mind readers any more than women are.

[Darksheare]

*Nods*
Ahhh..
Over five pounds they become four footed weapons with teeth?
(My experience with dogs as weaponry runs towards larger breeds that act all friendly until someone acts in a threatening manner.)

[Dan from Michigan]

My uncle's dad has a minature pinscher. He has a spiked collar on it and it's named "Bullet".

[chris1]

I am what you might call a 100% male and often respond in kind. For example, significant other does not want to have sex, I knee jerk assume its something about me - looks, whatever, but at the end of the day it is usually something so friviouls not even dealing with me. Anyway, hormonally, it is of no consolation to me that the hair dresser made a stupid remark that was dumb and resulted in a slight. Additionally, being frustrated at that point, I am not in the mood to hear about why I need to be sensitive to this sort of thing while I myself am already frustrated. See where I am with this??? Then I am accussed of not being sensitive.

[Land of the Free 04]

some plain communication.

Indeed. What's so bad about saying, for example, "I like to be told I look pretty"? Is it worse that never hearing it?

[Positive]

All I ever wanted from my women was "Sex and Sandwichs."

After spending nearly a million dollars on courtship and alimony and child support...I now have my sandwichs.

[technochick99]

I knee jerk assume its something about me

And I think most women wouldn't realize this at the time. We sometimes forget how 'fragile male egos are', but in all honesty, when *we* get rebuffed, we magnify it as well.