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An Alternative to the Federal Marriage Amendment
MensNewsDaily.com ^ | December 29, 2003 | Roger F. Gay

Posted on 12/29/2003 12:42:15 PM PST by RogerFGay


An Alternative to the Federal Marriage Amendment

December 29, 2003


by Roger F. Gay

From a legal perspective, marriage and family were redefined years before the current controversy over same-sex marriage began. The "original sin" (so to speak) was the transformation of marriage and family law into "social policy." Social policy is purely a political product, defined and controlled by government. The only viable response to the current treatment of marriage and family law is to return marriage and family to its protected status as an essential human institution, disallowing arbitrary political manipulation.

An essential step in the reclamation process has already been described in Fathers Rights? In defense of family and other fundamental rights.</a> The article points to a critical case from Georgia that received far less press coverage than the more recent decisions on same-sex marriage. Yet the contrast between the lower court decision in favor of applying individual rights in family law and the Georgia Supreme Court decision to ignore the constitution in favor of purely political treatment defines the entire problem.

The Georgia Supreme Court supported the notion that family issues are not related to sacred or essential human activity. Family issues are not even private issues subject to individual rights. They went even farther than that. In relation to family issues, government control is absolute. There is no area of life that requires any sort of check or balance against arbitrary government intrusion; not in redistributing income or property, or creating and assigning debt. There is in addition, no need to respect the separation of powers between branches of government, or to exclude conflicting third party special interests from unduly influencing or even controlling decisions by courts.

The tendency of so-called "conservative" groups to ignore the redefinition of marriage and family over the past decade has been overwhelming. I recall Gary Bauer  (ca. 1991) facing off against Rep. Tom Downey (D-NY) on the issue of child support enforcement legislation. At the time, Gary Bauer was head of the Family Research Council, an organization that has done no family research that I know of. Democrats controlled the House and Downey was making it emotionally clear that anyone who did not support his child support enforcement initiatives was his enemy. Despite the fact that a rather obvious political war against marriage and family was being spearheaded against fathers, and child support was the primary weapon (Downey one of the  generals), Bauer explained that child support was just not his issue.

In 1992, Gary Bauer appeared in another hearing headed by Tom Downey, this time on Downey's government assured child support benefit. Bauer took a position in favor of stronger child support enforcement; in effect, supporting the political war against marriage and family. His price for that support was apparently an increased tax break for married couples. Despite the name of the organization he worked for (Family Research Council), this seemed to be the single issue of interest other than helping Republicans get elected. Bauer is now head of an organization called "American Values," a political interest group which similarly appears to have no interest in core American political values.

The "Institute for American Values" is the counterpart of "American Values." While espousing what appear to be socially conservative positions, it supports Democrats and is even more openly hostile to individual rights. "Affiliate scholar" for the organization, Tom Sylvester recently took part in a roundtable discussion at MensNewsDaily.com entitled Fathers' Rights and the Marriage Movement in which he presented fundamental rights as just an alternative policy choice. When confronted about the absence of distinction he confessed that he did not understand the argument. One wonders how a man can become an affiliate scholar for an organization called the "Institute for American Values" without having a clue about what the core American values are.

Anyone who still doesn't get it should consider the 1996  federal Defense of Marriage Act, which says that states don't have to recognize same-sex "marriages" granted in other states. After more than a quarter century of federal intrusion that led to the transformation of marriage and family issues from sacred and essential human institutions to mere social policy, the act leaves further redefinition, essential to sorting out the chaos, to the states. All state courts will find it quite difficult to deny equal treatment under laws that have no connection to anything more than an invention of government. (The Massachusetts decision on same-sex marriage made it clear that the court regards marriage as nothing more; its definition purely an artificial political choice. This is a general result of the federal intrusion into marriage and family policy over the past quarter century.) Besides that, everyone agrees that the federal Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional, and was therefore never a serious attempt to solve the problem. The two parties and their support groups worked toward the demise of marriage as we knew it and even now are doing nothing to preserve marriage and family.

The suggestion to amend the constitution to preserve marriage by defining it as a union between a man and a women is yet another way to avoid the core problem; the fact that marriage and family has already been ripped from its natural and cultural roots by Congress. After years of waiting to see what courts decide, and then years to carry out the difficult process required for such an amendment, it is unlikely that it will pass. Groups favoring same-sex marriage will carry out a professional campaign against it, while most conservatives who get public attention tend to be so burdened with historical support for anti-family policy that they will be unable to put together two coherent sentences in support.

There is really only one set of people that is emotionally and intellectually equipped to lead a defense of family movement; fathers. (On this point; see also Divorced Dads: Family Champions) After decades of feminist myth, family researchers and political pundits have finally gotten around to admitting that fathers are important. But even now they often grope for specifics, suggesting studies and experiments to define the role of fathers in families. Meanwhile, fathers have been acting like fathers in spite of people who don't know what it means. Even when surrounded by the strange events and ideas that we have encountered over the past quarter century of anti-family politics, we still find a way to defend the family. My suggestion to "conservative" (or other) groups that are serious about the defense of marriage is to either support us or get out of the way.

Roger F. Gay


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Roger F. Gay is a professional analyst and director of Project for the Improvement of Child Support Litigation Technology. Other articles by Roger F. Gay can be found at Fathering Magazine and the MND archive.


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1 posted on 12/29/2003 12:42:15 PM PST by RogerFGay
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2 posted on 12/29/2003 12:42:52 PM PST by RogerFGay
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3 posted on 12/29/2003 1:14:35 PM PST by 69ConvertibleFirebird (Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience.)
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To: Carry_Okie
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4 posted on 12/29/2003 1:23:43 PM PST by farmfriend ( Isaiah 55:10,11)
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To: RogerFGay
Some so-called conservatives are looking for an alternative to the marriage amendment.These people are just weaklings and worried about a few votes from an overblown(pun intended)minority.We have to stop listening to people like this and have the amendment anyway to lock this crap up once and for all.The amendment should be worded so strictly that their will be NO OTHER INTERPRETATION!!
5 posted on 12/29/2003 1:29:20 PM PST by INSENSITIVE GUY
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To: RogerFGay
core problem = the fact that marriage and family has already been ripped from its natural and cultural roots by Congress

One of the reasons there is a legal institution of marriage at all is that families needed the enforcement of government to hold fathers (and mothers and husbands and wives) to their responsibilities. I believe this was appropriate: the church and social disapproval would be ineffectual by themselves. This is a legitimate interest of society that should not fall only to vigilante justice.

The plight of fathers under today's social policies is very real, but I do not agree with the notion that this sort of thing should be placed fundamentally out of the reach of government.

6 posted on 12/29/2003 1:46:32 PM PST by NutCrackerBoy
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To: NutCrackerBoy
It can never be placed outside of government NCB, that claim is a canard. When a man and woman wed with or without the blessing of the state, they enter into a contract and a proper function of government is the adjudication and enforcement of those contracts. The state doesn't go away, marriage does. A fools choice.
7 posted on 12/29/2003 1:52:06 PM PST by jwalsh07
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To: INSENSITIVE GUY
Amending the Constitution for something like this will only turn the Constitution into a political football, and destroy it as an arbiter of our political affairs.

The way to defend marriage is through impeachment of judges who misapply the Constitution. We'll make much further headway by doing that, and it really is the more honorable course.

8 posted on 12/29/2003 1:55:52 PM PST by inquest (The only problem with partisanship is that it leads to bipartisanship)
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To: inquest
The way to defend marriage is through impeachment of judges who misapply the Constitution.

Not going to happen.

9 posted on 12/29/2003 2:02:57 PM PST by jwalsh07
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To: jwalsh07
It will if all the people pushing for an amendment will instead pursue the more sensible option.
10 posted on 12/29/2003 2:06:42 PM PST by inquest (The only problem with partisanship is that it leads to bipartisanship)
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To: inquest
Impeachment and the threat of it are an excellent and necessary correction for this mess we are in with judicial activism. However, I do not see that as the only response to the current marriage threat. I support the FMA and I hope it will be ratified. Even if it is only pushed toward the brink, it may do an enormous amount of good as a shot across the bows of the activist's ships. That might be enough.

Also, Amendments to the Constitution being political "footballs" I do not see as a problem. An active political process is good for the country.

11 posted on 12/29/2003 2:07:08 PM PST by NutCrackerBoy
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To: RogerFGay
Folks talk a lot about "Defending Marriage" by banning same-sex marriage. This author points out that the greatest harm to marriage comes from the current divorce and custody laws. That is where reform is most urgently needed and it requires no constitutional amendments.
12 posted on 12/29/2003 2:08:07 PM PST by Looking for Diogenes
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To: NutCrackerBoy
An active political process is fine. It should be more active by involving more people, not by affecting more things. The Constitution, in particular, should only be amended when there is something actually wrong with the Constitution, not simply when someone wants to make a point.

There are two things we shouldn't take for granted: One is how well the Constitution, battered as it may be, still protects us from the abyss. The other is how deceptively easy it is to amend the Constitution, once it becomes an acceptable thing to do in response to whatever grievance. We shouldn't be playing games with something so important, not when we have another option that will do a much better job at defending the Constitution.

13 posted on 12/29/2003 2:14:51 PM PST by inquest (The only problem with partisanship is that it leads to bipartisanship)
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To: Looking for Diogenes
This author points out that the greatest harm to marriage comes from the current divorce and custody laws. That is where reform is most urgently needed and it requires no constitutional amendments.

That reform is in no way exclusive of the need to prevent the redefinition of marriage. Thankfully, this can all occur in the realm of the legislative, but the divorce and custody reform movement needs to build up momentum.

It is more urgent (even if not as important) to put up a defense against the redefinition movement that already has momentum, and the unfair advantage of judicial activism.

14 posted on 12/29/2003 2:22:56 PM PST by NutCrackerBoy
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To: Looking for Diogenes
This author points out that the greatest harm to marriage comes from the current divorce and custody laws.

The author is wrong. The greatest threat to the institution of marriage is from redefining the word marriage. There is no rational basis for excluding poly____ marriages or marriages of convenience if the meaning is liberalised to include those of the same sex entering into marriage. The inevitable result is the dissolution of the institution of marriage which I find to be a bad outcome.

That is where reform is most urgently needed and it requires no constitutional amendments.

Reform of marriage and the redfining of marriage are not mutually inclusive. Marriage law can be reformed while maintaing the meaning of the word.

15 posted on 12/29/2003 2:33:59 PM PST by jwalsh07
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To: inquest
It will if all the people pushing for an amendment will instead pursue the more sensible option.

Where are the 67 votes in the senate for conviction?

16 posted on 12/29/2003 2:44:01 PM PST by jwalsh07
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To: jwalsh07
Where are the 67 votes for the amendment? The only thing that's missing in going from amendment to impeachment is the belief that impeachment is an acceptable option. And that depends largely upon the people who are in the forefront of the push for the amendment.
17 posted on 12/29/2003 3:01:06 PM PST by inquest (The only problem with partisanship is that it leads to bipartisanship)
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To: inquest
There is a difference between democrats voting for an Amendment and voting to impeach judges for cause. One's not gonna happen, the other, if DOMA, is any indication just might.

There are other methods to be employed by Congress if they so choose. They have article 3 powers to simply tell SCOTUS to keep their hands off certain issues. That would be doable, impeachment is not going to happen, the politics are too thorny.

18 posted on 12/29/2003 3:09:58 PM PST by jwalsh07
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To: NutCrackerBoy; Looking for Diogenes; jwalsh07; inquest
The divorce and custody laws have turned the institution of marriage in a joke, and an financially and emotionally costly one at that. The lives of tens of millions of men and their children have been completely turned upside down. Where was the defense of marriage crowd when that was happening? A lot of them couldn't be bothered with their problems. I'll even go out on a limb and assert that many of them were cheering on the movement that labeled every father a "deadbeat" and made them visitors in the lives of their children.

I hope the defense or marriage people aren't seriously expecting those of us that have been (and still are being) screwed over by what is called marriage today to carry any of their water after society as a whole has turned it's back on us. From our perspective, what's left of this "institution" isn't anything we're going to get worked up to defend.
19 posted on 12/29/2003 3:29:40 PM PST by Orangedog (Remain calm...all is well! [/sarcasm])
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To: Orangedog
I don't know whether or not I am a member of "the defense of marriage crowd," I am just an Internet forum participant. That said, marriage is still at this moment something that matters, and I am more than amenable to reforms. Unfortunately, this piece here did not give me a clear sense of where the reform battleground is and how it relates to the marriage redefinition problem.
20 posted on 12/29/2003 3:42:49 PM PST by NutCrackerBoy
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