[ksen]

Peace at any cost is no peace at all. That is what causes tension. When there are subjects that can't be talked about because it might upset the apple cart, because someone might leave. True friends stay friends in spite of differences.

Well said Becky.

Your "peace at any cost" line makes me think of countries. Sometimes this never-ending peace keeping between nations causes more problems than it stops. Sometimes nations just have to have a good, old fashioned rough-and-tumble. Then when the dust settles things can get going again.

Can you imagine what our relationship would be like with Japan now if we had not gone to war? We'd probably hate each other and would do our best not to deal with each other. However, we duked things out and now since the pressure is gone we are the best of friends (well, unless you count our subs accidently sinking their ships every now and then...).

We can be friends and have our occasional disagreements. Friends are friends despite their disagreements.

Where'd all that come from? Becky, it's all your fault! ;^)

[2Jedismom]

I agree with the "peace at any cost" statement too. A few weeks ago when you posted that post that hurt me so badly, I flapped. JenB once said (for the relative newcomers) that I never flap, but in this case I did, because I was truly very upset. I suspect many thought my response was silly, but nonetheless...

Now I could have kept it to myself and never said anything but the Hole would never have been the same for me. So I let you know how upset I was. In your case, it led to reconciliation and my increased respect for you. You just don't know how much I appreciated that.

Those here in the Hole that are my "true" friends (as Ruthy defined them) have proven it over and over and I haven't said "Thank You" enough.

[PayNoAttentionManBehindCurtain]

LOL...I was going to say it was all your fault, your the one that brought me over here knowing they type of person I am:)

Becky