Well, my friend just got skewered by the divorce court - it took all of 3 months. And they nicked him for $1000 per month in alimony on top of child support. Now, she made $40K and he made $50K so why is he getting skewered? I can understand the child support, but the alimony is way over the top.
How odd. I never saw Nickel One from my ex after I left. I didn't even get what the court orders mandated.
That would make you a statistical abberation since the vast majority of divorces end up with the man paying and the woman getting the kids. In jurisdictions where alimony isn't used, they jack up the child support to compensate. Its a gold mine. I'm not sure what happened in your case.
I think you are fantasizing a lot. I don't know any women who are living well off of their ex-husbands.
I do, or at least I know a few that are taking a good chunk of his income.
I got it from the mouths of men. Actually, most women 'settle'; unlike men, they don't have a size, a hair color--but then, they're not typically fixated on superficials, either, and they don't dump the guy when he grows a beer gut.
So you have no preference among men? Would you prefer Schwartzenegger or DiVito? You can't tell me that women aren't just as "superficial" as men, as if that's a bad thing. I've heard women talk among themselves plenty of times.
And no, I don't imagine that you would dump a guy for his pot belly. You might just divorce him for "unreconcilable differences" though.
Me? I handed over paychecks for 10 years to the 'joint' account and was lucky to leave with my life. I suspect he hid the money in German accounts--he had relatives there. My cats were not so fortunate. Only God knows what my ex did to them.
Like I said, statistically, your situation is completely backwards. If what you are telling is the truth, then you know exactly what most men go through in a divorce.