You're one of the smart ones who knew what qualities to look for in a woman. It sounds like you didn't try to meet a trophy type in some bar, you didn't pick the one who was the best in bed or just had the hottest looking body. It's all about choices and choosing carefully.
You're one of the smart ones who knew what qualities to look for in a woman. It sounds like you didn't try to meet a trophy type in some bar, you didn't pick the one who was the best in bed or just had the hottest looking body. It's all about choices and choosing carefully.
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One can choose carefully and still end up with a loser. After four kids and 18 years hubby cut lose with a lying and drinking binge that slid the kids from a comfortable 6 figure homeschooled lots of activities life to latchkey kids with no outside activities. I struggle 50hr+ per week to pay bills and put food on the table.
He lost his lucrative business of 25 years(think Big 6 national consultant), all savings, and a good portion of a large retirement cushion. I had him put the remaining assets in my name to forstall more losses. Five years I worked on the marriage, counseling, medical help, inpatient, prayer (he was a church elder too) you name it with him in and out of the house depending on his sobriety or lack of... The drunkeness wasn't as difficult as the lying.
Finally called it quits because there is nothing there. He is still bitter and thinks I took him to the cleaners. Does not see the losses he took as material. He walked away with about 50-50, his in cash, the remaining retirement, and I took the buildings. He works a menial job, (think brooms) lives in a trailer and drives a beater. He still drinks. He tells me he likes his life yet he is a rager these days, and vulgar at times. It is hard to look at him in his little monkey suit with his name on the pocket and remeber the handsome man, impeccably dressed and very competent getting on and off flights and enjoying the most out of his world.
The kids finally have their heads screwed back on, but one can see the pain...Sometimes, no matter what, you end up with a crash and burn. And I am not sorry he feels cheated. He screwed the kids totally.