[Tennessee_Bob]

It takes everything to hold back from saying, "dude, you're making a big mistake."

Then do him a favor and stop holding back. I honestly wish that the troops I worked with and the folks around me had been more vocal than they were.

[Nowhere Man]

Then do him a favor and stop holding back. I honestly wish that the troops I worked with and the folks around me had been more vocal than they were.

I think you're right. I remember telling him "are you sure you're doing the right thing? I mean, she's been married twice, had kid #3 to a third guy (while still married, i.e. technically cheating of course), lacks drive, and so on. Her past doesn't look too good." Even his boss where he works have been telling him this but it doesn't register. Same with his mother, she complains that "all she does is sleep and sit's on her 'butt' (can't say the real word here) all day." She even can't hold a conversation well. Hopefully he'll wake up, he can do a lot better and find some nice girl.

Oh Vey. Getting back to the general subject, there is a side of me that wonder if things were better in the days of courting and/or "arranged marriages," at least the two parties would spend some time together, usually chaperoned, with the expectation of (hopefully) growing on and then loving each other. I know it isn't perfect, but sometimes I think it is much better than the circus we have today and the past 30 years or so. Well, comment, criticize, flame, etc. nicely. B-)