I think both sides of the argument are idiots. Both countries are bad. Neither country is a democracy. Both sides have Nazis in their countries. Both sides commit atrocities.
And you would be right.
Notice that you didn't specify which two nations you commented about, you assumed I would know.
Ukraine and Russia.
There could be a third (and many more) nation involved, that also don't measure up, and fit ALL of your descriptions: Bad; Not a democracy; Contain Nazis; Commit atrocities.
I don't believe it's in the best interests of Ordinary Legacy Americans to help either side.