Not as rare as you think. The same thing happened to a roommate of mine when I went to college in the early-mid seventies in New Orleans.
Another friend and I was at a watering hole in Seattle in the late ‘80’s when he latched on to this super hot red head with an Adam’s apple and wrists as big as mine. I tried to warn him “she” didn’t pass my smell test leave it alone. Of course his little head overrode good sense….
Both incidents resulted in the deceiver not liking life for a considerable amount of time afterwards, they were lucky it wasn’t worse like you said.
Thank God, I got married at birth, actually 22, and could avoid these kind of problems. Today, I don’t know what I’d expect from the dating scene…scary thought with all the insane people that walk amongst us sharing our oxygen.