It took a long time, and a lot of anger to learn that I had exactly 5 seconds when I felt provoked to hold off, and then I could control my response.
When I became a Christian, I listened to a lot of "acting like a Christian" sermons, and figured, "OK, if you say so, bud," and that wasn't my role. When I became more involved in the church, and was looked on as an informal leader, I learned my behavior should be somewhat restrained. I also take counsel when my behavior is criticized, and apply discernment. It takes an effort, somedays.
That makes sense. And the practical advice of waiting 5 seconds...I’m a little like Trump...we go straight from head to hands to keyboard..no interruptions :)
I LOVE that style about Trump...though sometimes a bad one sneaks through.
But the personal attacks I do...they disappoint me that I do them.
I have some Very Big stressors in life right now that will not be going anywhere for at least 3 to 6 more months.
My faith isn’t as strong as it should be.
I have a bit of ADD so trying to read the Bible and even knowing where to begin just BOGGLE me.
Some say start from the beginning.
I dunno.
I admire that you took the steps and are now an informal leader and can hold your temper.