Posted on 11/12/2019 10:42:04 AM PST by SeekAndFind
You’re just a cog in the big corporate machine, and will be replaced at some point as if you never existed. Do us and yourself a favor, and go make a conservative family please.
I don’t know if that’s good or bad :)
And that’s GREAT.
I was DIRECTLY talking about the ‘hood.
I think step parents, the good ones, are the BEST among us.
They truly hear God’s word and live it.
I should have been more clear. Having kids in the ghetto at 15 or 17 with a man who has no job and a prison record and then letting whoever you date next be the “daddy” usually ends up bad.
I TRIED to be a stepfather to two kids from the ‘hood and I loved them after 2 plus years but i met them too late and you just get tired.
13 and 15. doesn’t sound old but when you’e seen what they had seen already, mother beaten and raped over and over though the years, it was too late to change them, at least my best wasn’t good enough
And the statistics don’t lie, Especially in the projects.
I think good step parents are the BEST among us.
They treat another person’s child like their own.
most can’t do it and may feel a certain way because the child is not theirs.
It doesn’t sound fair, but it often is true.
I've heard a little of that on this board.
Story link here:
Much more than that, in fact considerably more, I've heard abortion being discussed as a cause of breast cancer.
>>On a practical basis, I would rather listen to what he as an experienced and successful money manager has to say than what a writer hanging on the coattails of current social criticism has to say about to what extent women should or must be dependent on men.<<
That is NOT the message, but to each his/her own.
Note: Mrs. FD takes care of ALL our finances and I will be retiring comfortably at 63 (could do it now if I really wanted to). So there is something to the book.
I believe that was her point - the concept is one of the myths ...
Now, now...
Oh, piff.
The author has merely employed the most direct and pertinent method, the Dr Phil method---
"How's that working out for you?"
No games necessary.
Not everyone is the same. It seems to me SD has made a thoughtful judgment about her life. Why the need to ‘correct?’
As for doing you a favor by making babies in a conservative family, it seems you're the one who's not very happy and want to ensure other single women should share that pleasure.
Thank you!
** Why the need to ‘correct?’**
My wife was triggered by the humorous photo depicting the man doing nothing, while the woman (with no smile) is caring for the kids. We have boxes of photos taken of my wife and our sons. In some you could probably detect that she was tired, but the smile, to varying degrees is always there. Now 62, she calls those years the best of her life. (And mine as well.)
People (yes, most often the wife) quite often put careers on hold or change careers in order to be parents. Putting having children on hold is something where the window of opportunity is not nearly as long. That she and I both have school friends, and relatives, who chose career over family, has given us ringside seat of sorts to witness how empty their lives are at middle/retirement age. It is not uncommon to notice the forced smiles on their faces at gatherings. My wife offered an opinion from experience. It is that simple.
As far as careers go, modifications are quite often possible. Rather than end my farming career at a young 27, I chose to struggle through the disaster that Jimmy Carter put on many farmers. I found off the farm work to help the farm survive. My wife could have pushed the kids off on her mother to finish an RN degree she put on hold to become mother. We survived and have a family, including grandchildren. I’m 65 and have hs classmates that are already great grandparents.
Real life is people (Souls, God’s creation, not the temporal things that mankind makes).
Disclaimer (of sorts, lol): My wife is not a member of any social media. If I’m in the same room, I sometimes tell her what I seeing on FR, and once in a great while, even years, has either asked me to comment for her, or she has made the comment herself.
>>My experience is that many women do tend to follow guidance, which makes them more vulnerable to sales pitches, so-called experts, scare tactics about how attractive they are, where they will wind up in life, how to be secure etc.<<
I have been saying for 1/4 of a century I married up. My wife is such a skeptic ice cue=be salesmen could not sell her a cube in the dead of a North Texas summer.
We have been great about discussing +/- of big decisions, sometimes for hours while we (OK I) do research on what makes sense. She tracks the as-is data — I run the projections and ALWAYS tell her the assumptions.
It almost is like man needs woman and woman needs man. Different, yet complementary approaches based more on biology than not.
As alawys, IMHO
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