You’re probably from a different generation than I.
What you are destining most definitely did not work on my generation and from what I can see, doesn’t work now either. In fact it’s worse than not working, it’s actively looked down upon.
I was born in 1953, a whole different world.
I don’t even know what the girls look for in a guy these days. Seems like most of the guys try to act like gangster wannabes with three or four children by different girls.
If a fella got a girl “in the family way” when I was young a quick wedding was sure to follow.
I have no love for modern society. It’s gotten everything ass backwards.