My wife still smokes and she’s like you. She just enjoys it. Knows it’s not healthy, doesn’t like the cost, but she enjoys her morning smoke and coffee on the deck. She’s tried to quit, and mostly failed because she doesn’t really want to quit. Just hasn’t hit that point yet.
I vape but......I’m with your wife. There are times when nothing else will do. Sitting at the patio table in the morning with a cup of coffee. After a great meal. Etc. etc. I sometimes only have that one with my coffee in the morning but dam...I like it! Lol