Well, you are a very unusual case but maybe that’s because he had contacts with lawyers.
The usual outcome (and I’m sure that you would have to agree) is that the woman get more than half along with alimony and child support. Rarely is the male given child support even if granted primary custody (I know).
So while you may have suffered, the majority of women make out very well during a divorce which I imagine you know but are a bit angry that you did not.
The one thing that I would agree with is that if you gave up a promising career to get married and become a housewife, then you should be re-reimbursed enough to provide time to get a decent job. Actually, most men that I know would do that out of decency and love of their wife during a divorce unless it was because of her cheating.
Now if he actually liked men, shame on you for not knowing that before getting married. I would thing that if he is not wanting sex every night or more for the first year or so, he might be questionable, heh.
The usual outcome . . . is that the woman get more than half along with alimony and child support.
Here's what really happens: The man walks away with two-thirds of his income, and the woman receives one-third as alimony. So, she must raise the children on one-third of the father's income plus some extra cash for child support. AND she must pay taxes on the alimony, whereas he gets to deduct the alimony from his taxes.
So, the guy comes out ahead.
I’ve told my tale of woe here before regarding my parents’ divorce, but perhaps states handle divorce differently now.
My mom got ZERO alimony/benefits/insurance/reimbursements after being married & a stay-at-home-mom for 25 yrs., didn’t cheat, (and my dad knew & admitted in court she hadn’t) and my dad only had to pay the absolute lowest amount of child support the state mandated. I think it was about $30.00 a week, then he had the nerve to pro-rate it the week I turned 18. Since I turned 18 early in the week, I think he paid $17 or $18 dollars that last week.
Sure, my mom got the house, but she also got the mortgage, taxes, insurance with NO job/support/prospects after 25 yrs. My dad was making over 50k per year officially at the time, and more under the table. And yes, both had lawyers. Obviously, my mom’s lawyer sucked, and probably was in cahoots with my dad’s lawyer.
Because of cases like my mom’s women get more now. No, it’s not fair to a lot of men nowadays, but that’s the situation. Every case needs to be decided on it’s own merits, but it’s easier to do a one-size-divorce-fits-all settlement.