They will never become reasonable and civilized people unless they leave the cult of islam.
We have friends that were formally muslim (now Christian) and they will tell you the same thing.
One of my friends and coworkers is a former officer in the Imperial Iranian Army. A Christian, he and his immediate family were forced to flee after the Shah was overthrown, but he still has relatives living in Iran that he is occasionally able to contact (don’t ask how, I won’t tell) and the horror stories they have told him are both gut-wrenching and heartbreaking.