My husband and I have actually had this discussion. He told me that if anything happens to him, I am NOT to live with our children. He wants me to get on with life and enjoy it. He also knows that children in their 30's need privacy.
My mom, 78, just moved here to our property and lives in a house about 75 yards away we had built for her. It's still a tiny bit of an issue.
You guys are young. Your probably the same age as my children - I know your mil feels lonely and devastated over the loss of her husband. Trying to clean out a house with too much stuff in it IS overwhelming - we did it for my mom and she saved everything, down to grocery bags and cool whip containers.
People have said 20-30 years more of life - I hope I live longer than that. Perhaps she is overwhelmed and depressed - get her to her doctor. Tell him what the plan is and get his advice.
After being on last night for a couple hours, I turned off the computer and spent the rest of the evening with my wife. I notice this morning that there have been alot of comments about my MIL age.
To clear things up a bit... The main problem is health issues and lack of care. She owns the house outright, but it isn’t worth too much. She and my father-in-law were just getting by before he began dying from cancer. The intent is to make it temporary. I get out of the Army in just under three years and we want her to move with us to our new destination, but to her own place.
Thank you everyone for the help.