At my husband’s request, we moved MY mom into our home early in 2002. She was on a downward spiral and didn’t believe she had very long to go.
Now, she’s in several civic/social groups, spends 10 hours a week as a volunteer and hits the gym 4x/week.
I could go on about the ups and downs, but in the end, it was the right thing to do for all of us.
Sounds like you’re getting lots of good advice. Just one thing. Make sure you put down a good thick carpet pad. After the first winter grandma complained that the garage slab floor got too cold. Especially when we opened the big door to park the car. ;)
I think your MIL and wife are pretty lucky. Also sounds like things are pretty squared away with all the stuff. Have an auction.
My MIL sold her parent’s farm in what is now a suburb in the Midwest. The developer paid for everything with all the furnishings, etc. and was going to have an auction. I was traveling at the time and was just sick about it as I would have liked to have gone through things first and probably put them out for auction ourselves. But, MIL just wanted it to be done with - and I can understand that, and that is worth a lot in of itself. And, like she said - “All it is is a bunch of old junk. The barn is full of old tools and cars and tractors and God knows what other crap is out there”. :(
Oh - he also liked to hide cash all over the place “just in case”. They found over $10k stashed in the house just cleaning up. And that was without pulling on floor boards or looking through all the junk in the garage. Makes me sick to think of it.