To be perfectly blunt.. it’s very difficult to have elders living with you and your family. I did so as the daughte of 2 elderly parents at different times over a 10 year peiod.
It is massively stressful on the direct descendant, particularly depending on the medical situation. If I were you, and I am not, (obviously) do what my wonderful husband did. Be supportive, Don’t Complain, and Help in every way that you can.
Don’t worry about the “stuff”. If you think your time together is somewhat limited, put it in storage and dispose of it afterwards.
Think about your M in L watching you throw her life away before her very eyes!
That’s a tough one for her! Seniors are lovely people and appreciate the help.
Respect them and don’t make yourselves look as if you just want to get rid of everything.
Unless you need the financial help to care for her, of course!
That was not my experience, but if it’s yours, contact estate sales and don’t discuss it alot in front of Mom.
Do it on the side and try to negate the impact.
Believe me, I have Alot of seniors in my life and they mostly wish to be cared for lovingly and be respected as individuals.
Good luck
Over and out.
She’s not a senior. My wife’s dad died young. My mom in law is in her early 50’s. So, getting rid of the stuff is pretty much a necessity. Besides, she seems all for it. She just can’t support herself.
Good advice.
She is a person more than the MIL.