You’re right about the ground rules. You have to do it from the get go. My mom lives with my sister and it has created tension from time to time and laying ground rules early on was not something my sister did. Sometimes you wonder who pays the bills over there, my mom or my sister and her husband.
Also, if you have kids, you’ll need to lay ground rules regarding the kids.
Perhaps your MIL is a nice lady and not the controlling bossy type, but if she’s the type who tries to take over, be careful.
As for her stuff, you sure you don’t want to keep it in storage for a while, until you’re sure you’re okay with the new living arrangements?
Well, as the situation is, she can’t keep her house, and she has an obscene amout of stuff. She really has no big attachement to it, it was my father-in-law that collected alot of stuff. Most of the important family stuff was distro’d out when he passed away. We do have to sell alot of the stuff to pay down her debt (which isn’t too much), and she’s agreed to it. I’m just wondering if auctioning is the best method, or is there a method I’m unaware of.
My uncle in law moved in with us, and we didn’t set ground rules... my wife spent 12 hours per day with him, and now we are getting divorced.