Lose the gray Jamie.
There's nothing wrong with gray hair on a woman (says the au natural meowmeow). Now I'll grant it - it isn't easy to pull off as I've discovered. I've had to upgrade the rest of me (as in wearing nicer, better fitting clothes and putting on some makeup) otherwise I just look OLD and FRUMPY.
I get more compliments on my hair now that it is gray (actually it is silver) than I ever did when I was young.