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I know his parents and he has a good relationship with his dad. I think he does with his mom too, but the family has been through some rough times. His mom really idolizes the oldest boy who is now in college. This is because of some financial problems from previous years when the oldest boy took an after school job to help out the family. She feels guilty about him 'missing out' on his teen years. While this is certainly a commendable thing that her oldest son did, I think the younger two kids maybe feel inadequate or something, as they don't get much praise. The teenage girl comes over a lot too and tells me all about her boyfriend woes. That's a bit uncomfortable because I think she sees me more as a friend, and I'm kind of afraid of her telling me something I'd rather not know. Hasn't happened yet though, and lately she's been hanging out more with her friends. My husband and I talked about the younger boy issue because we finally had to ask him to go home at 8:45 last night. We're just going to make a rule that after 7:30 no company can be over. My husband thinks the boy has a crush on me. I'm 35, so I don't see it. I think he's lonely, awkward, and shy. I want to help the kid, but I've gotta put down some rules because even my kids are wondering why he is over so much. We had a bit of an issue last night. The kid is a large kid and is always joking to my husband on how he can take him down, and trying to wrestle. At first my husband tolerated his attempts to tackle, by playing along for a bit. Then he flat out told him to stop it. Last night when my husband went to tell him it was time to leave the kid tried the tackle thing again, as he bragged about being able to take my husband down. So, my husband grabbed his arm from around his neck and twisted, not hard, but firm and held him in a lock for a minute to make a point. He told him once again to stop it. He then patted him on the back and told him it was time to leave. I guess maybe he's trying to relate to adults and he just doesn't know how. Fourteen is an awkward age. I'm torn between being sensitive, and maintaining sanity. I like my space!