Yes, thank you for that. I found the same information.
The last thing either of them want is to possibly harm the baby, even if it isn't his.
A local hospital told him they had to wait until the baby is born. Planned Parenthood told him that a test can be done after the 5th month.
Don't bail out on her during the pregnancy. Is your stepson the only one of the possible fathers who has come forward? I'm not advising that he accept a lifetime's obligation but he shouldn't be looking to bail out if he "did the deed" so to speak.
Waiting for 5 months for the test. Then another 3 months? for the results means the man would have had time to develope a relationship. Take my word for it finding out the results can ruin you after you have fallen in love with the baby. The woman can then go to the real father and deprive you of seeing your baby if their is a fight. There no winning when you find out the baby is not yours.
Men have to keep it in their pants to avoid ruining their lives and I am not just talking about paying child support for 18 years.
Be careful, because Planned Parenthood doesn't give a rats ass about the well-being of the fetus. Refuse any sort of invasive testing such as amniocentesis.
Is there any chance that your stepson would consider foregoing the paternity test and just taking responsibility for this child? The fact that paternity is in question means that mistakes have been made here on all sides. But regardless, life is different now for the mother. That baby needs a permanent father in his life, and I hope she understands that. Maybe she and your stepson ought to consider him becoming the child's father regardless.
It is possible there are some legal issues there, if the other man is still "around", knows about the pregnancy, suspects its his, and wants to be involved. But otherwise, I don't think it really matters. Donating sperm does not qualify one to be a father. Taking responsibility does.