The tact that I have encountered is where they don’t accuse you of being angry but rather proclaim you being defensive. That’s tough one. Almost any response is pointed out by them to be evidence that they are correct. Very frustrating.
Then of course, the would move to the angry charge when they exasperated you with the charges of being defensive. I fell prey to this tact quite a few times at one job I held for 10 plus years. Never did come up with a good defense.
“Tell me more about your opinion on that.”
I just say what a pathetic tactic, and go back to my point...