That was an excerpt from the post itself. I wrote the post listing signs of emotional/verbal abuse because last night, after 20 years, I’ve realized that yes, I am married to an abuser. And you’re right: it’s not fun. I just want to let others like me know that there is hope and help. If one more woman (or man) escapes the emotional and psychological battering of someone who claims to love them, then my work on this earth is done and I’ll die in peace.
Okay, I finally read your blog. On a side note, if you want more people to read it, you will need to put more than 42 words in your post.
I’ve been doing a LOT of research on narcissism lately, because of my friend, and there’s a LOT on the web to read. Your husband sounds like a classic case (your example of lying on the frozen ground and he doesn’t care is a classic example of a narcissistic man) and the first thing you can do is arm yourself with knowledge. This is very very important. Read anything and EVERYTHING you can find about narcissism. I used search words like “living with a narcissist” “examples of narcissism” and stuff like that.
And start saving money! Hide it somewhere where it can’t be found, even if it’s only a quarter here and there. It will add up. And you’re going to need a divorce lawyer if you want to save your sanity. There is no choice but to sever the relationship unless you want to continue living this way. He will not change.
I feel for you, I really do. But if you arm yourself with knowledge you will find techniques that will help you. In fact, you might check around and see if there’s a 12-step program (I’m not joking about this).
Does he drink?